Wow! Both of you have been through a terrible ordeal. I went to my post op a few weeks back and met with the surgeon for the first time. He seemed like a jerk. He talked for ever about how I'd never be the skinny girl on the beach in a bikini! I told him that I'm 56 year old women and wearing bikini is not one of my goals. He talked a lot about extreme dieting that made no sense. After I left, I canceled my surgery and am now looking for a new surgeon. I feel much better about changing my mind after reading about both of your situations.