I can't bring myself to tell my family I'm doing this. I've been in the process for 8 months and I can't do it. I finally told my brother and that was a relief but I'm stuck with my parents. I think they'll be supportive, but they can also be overbearing to the point it seriously stresses me out. My relationship has never been great with either of them but now it's like they are trying to make up for it, not by doing what I need, but by doing what makes them feel better. Does that makes sense?
I recently had a extremely minor surgical procedure and my dad absolutely would not listen to what I needed. Even though I had my husband to drive me, my mom and dad both insisted on coming. He insisted on coming to my house, sitting for hours, and watching tv. When all I needed was to be driven home and dropped off so I could sleep. I could even see him trying to take my car while I'm recovering because "I won't be driving it."
My mom likes to be the center of attention. She'll storm in, make a show of "helping" and disappear again. But she is a nurse so she could at least be helpful. She'll also call everyone she knows and tell them I'm having surgery the second she finds out. He'll, she'll probably call my husband and tell him. (He knows, obviously) I don't care if people know Im having surgery, but I'm very private and really really just want to be left alone while Im recovering.
I could probably get through the hospital without telling them, but they'll guilt trip the hell out of me and I fall it every single time.
My husband is very supportive, and I have a few good friends and coworkers who have had the surgery, so I of have support. I'm just at a loss as to how to even start the conversation with them. My surgery will probably be sometime in February.
Sorry this is kind of a rant, I know there isn't much I can do other than grin and bear it but it anyone has any advice I'd appreciate it.