treasureb22

6 yrs out and I consume maybe 900-1000 calories daily. Even that takes effort.

I appreciate your advice. It has been a journey however I'm less than my goal weight I've lost 200 + lbs and struggle to keep the little weight I have left on me. I eat whatever I want and I still can't get enough calories. And now that I am a small fry I don't have any energy or the ability to feel joy to enjoy this potentially best time if my life portion if life. I'm 36 yrs old not married and my kids are fun ages 11 and 8. But I'm tired And grumpy and sad. I get propositioned to date and in not interested it sucks. I feel like it helped my weight at the cost of my spirit. But I have faith in God and I manage my responsibility as a parent and adult I'm just doing alone I cut off the world. In my mind I like it alone and cut off but I know I really couldn't possibly but I tell myself I love it. I don't know. I do know that I never want fir anyone else to experience what I have or to go through with the surgery without knowing the otherwise untold possibility that you may go thru. It's not all donuts and daisies. Always be informed and keep it real with your self about your risk factors. Because I didn't and I wasn't and I regret it more than anything. But thanks for listening. I was coming on here to inform others but I never thought I'd be receiving support as well. Thank you. Cheers Sent from my iPhone using RNYTalk

I am 36 years old mother of 3, and 6 years post op. I've had just about every possible side effect and have had to put it bluntly...I hate the way my experience has gone. I was HW 306 PRE OP 236 current weight 150 but fluctuates up and down. I've had to work hard at staying above 125lbs I got so ill from malnutrition from consuming not enough calories. I've struggled with deep depression bouts and even almost suicidal sometimes. I was a very happy and socially busy "fat gurl" but now I can honestly say I am a introvert have no close friends anymore and I look way older now I have over 16 lbs of skin in my mid section I hate it. My kids used to think I was fun and loved being with me. Today they would tell you they love when I go to their events because I am the hip and pretty mom. But I can't hang with them for long and I get tired. It's been different getting so much attention from others hitting on me now but I get angry because if they knew me before they never would of asked me out. I was sexually assaulted last year and ever since I can't seem to pull my self out of the blues and fear. I was never afraid before but from being sick from the Vitamin deficiencies etc I am weakened and do not have the strength to defend my own safety anymore. ADVISE I GIVE ANYONE DOING THIS USE FACE CREAM AND WRINKLE CREAM RELIGIOUSLY, DO NOT LET THE SURGERY CHANGE YOUR INNER SELF. STAY DRINKING PLENTY OF Water AND FIND Snacks YOU ENJOY AND ENJOY THEM. DONT BE TO HARD ON YOURSELF YOU ARE ALEAYS YOUR WORST CRITIC. I am not sure if anyone else has hAd this type of experience. Or if I am just a fluke but it's really not been a fun time. I don't like being tiny I feel vulnerable all the time. But I am spiritual and I got faith in my higher power he's got a plan for me.

That's a really good idea for dealing with the assault but I've gone so deep into this dark place I hate leaving my house talking on the phone or even thinking about meeting a new person it's so not like me at the me I was. It feels more like a dream and yes addiction to alcohol grabbed my behind as well it took a few months to realize what I was doing and then I quit drinking completely however I never even liked to drink before I never even thought I'd become a alcoholic but when foods always been your comfort and suddenly your not able to be comforted that way our needs will find a means to get met I guess. But yes I will reconsider therapy again. Who knows maybe this time ill show up and stay. Thanks for the encouragement and acknowledgement. Sent from my iPhone using RNYTalk

Yes really think again if you already have depression because fir me it didn't go away after awhile it progressed to near death. I struggle every day to find enough motivation to get through the day every aspect of my life was impacted my career relationships friendships everything I was not prepared at all. And I felt like I had a dirty trick played on me. And today I feel like I'm the only one who regrets this. But in my life it's one of the biggest regrets I have. I hope your doctor knows your real history and has proactively prepared for the mental issues that come after. I was so excited after then it crept in slowly.

It will be like that some days. I'm years post op and I feel like that at times in spells it comes and goes. Take it easy and I know we have all heard it before but truthfully the more you can get some cardio exercise like (running for me ) the better my feelings are. The fatigue and light headed days get better. Hang on there. I also ate oatmeal in the packages seemed to help me a lot.

I am brand new to this site, however I am years post op my surgery was in 2007 and currently I still have these same deficiencies (and many more). I take 6 times the adult dose of Iron and vit D it has never really helped me much. The fatigue is awful it feels like I wish I could do this over and skip the surgery all together.