Ammariehs mommy

Just hang in there! Your babies need you and your husband will be home before you no it. It may seem difficult and unbearable at times but you can get through this!! And at least you have family that cares. My sister is so involved with her abusive relationship and my mother is extremely over weight herself. She won't do anything about it. If there is food around she's got to eat it. She will sneak and eat like a 2 year old. I don't have any support. I joined this website a couple days weeks ago and feel like I have gotten more support here then anywhere else. On the days you feel the need to vent post on here. It always makes me feel better!!

I feel the same way! Head hunger is what gets me to cheat all the time!! It's a fight daily. But we have to remember that we are stronger then that little voice I our head!!

I'm so sorry that you are going through this! Is this a new thing that has happened since surgery? Or was you struggling with issues before? Just remember that your body needs nutrition and take small bites. You will get through this!! You are stronger then any eating disorder!! And it's ok to vent here I do the same thing! People are so supportive I get more support here then I do from family!!

Today was the first time I worked out in let's say for-NEVER!! I have never worked out. I'm 33and I am pre op and I currently weigh about 465. I started at 484 on July 5th. So usually I try to go swimming twice a week or when ever I can get a baby sitter for my adopted one year old and two foster children oh and my 3day care kids. Yes I have a zoo from 9 to 5. It's hard to get someone to come watch the zoo. So it's hard to get out of the house. Today I finally had my aunt who volunteers twice a week for me so I can go and swim. I took my 10 year old foster daughter with me and we both were so excited to finally swim after being cooped up for a whole week. We get to the hotel were I pay a monthly member ship at and we walk to the door happy with smiles from ear to ear. And what's on the door a note saying the pool was closed today because of a pump going out. So instantly our smiles turned to frowns. Well I told her lets go see and make sure since we drove all the way there. So we went into the pool area and sure enough it was closed. I was so mad I finally got out of the house today after not swimming since last Thursday and we can't even go. So I was walking out and then as soon as I hit the door to go out side it dawned on me they have a full gym lets go in there and see what I can do. So we go into the gym and instantly my foster daughter was in heaven she's trying out all the equipment. I was just standing there stuck trying to figure out what I could actually do in there. So I walk over to a weight thingy( I told you I never worked out I don't no any names of the equipment but a treadmill lol) it's the sit down and pull down bar thing. So I set the weight at 30 pounds and I gave myself a goal of 50. Well at about 15 my arms were on fire. Then I quickly changed my goal to 20. I finished that goal. So then I got on the treadmill. I set my goal at 5 minutes. Now mind you I hardly walk. The most walking I do is to the restroom or to the kitchen. I ride scooters at the stores. Since I dislocated my knees the most recent was in April they hurt really bad when I walk. So around 1 and a half minutes I start to slip. My knees where hurting my back was hurting I was sweating. So I set my goal to 2 minutes instead of 5. 3 calories burned!! Onto the next thing. The next one was a curl arm weight. Where you pull the weights up and your arms curl up. I set the weight and I set my goal to 20. Well by 8 I was tired and my arms were burning. So I quickly changed that goal to 10. I finished that goal and moved on to the next thing which was a sit down lean back kind of bike thing. Lol . So I set a goal of at least 2 minutes. Well lets just say I made it about 20 times round and I was done. 2 Calories burned! Woohoo my first ever workout and it lasted a total of 5 whole minutes!! I guess you can say its a start. I never would have imagined that I would be here weighing 465 pounds. Not being able to do normal things like ride a bike or walk for that matter. Today I realized I have to set goals. I've never had any before. I set goals today and I might not have reached them today but if I keep on working at it I will reach them eventually!! My motivation is my will to live. My will to be here to see my daughter grow up. Staying over weight is not going to allow me to see that. Thank you everyone here for listening to me ramble and being here for me when I am feeling discouraged! My first5 minute work out is complete and next time go swim I will try it all over again. Hopefully that will be tomorrow. (If I can find a sitter lol) The picture is my daughter. My motivation!!

Thanks!! And being patient is hard!! Hopefully I will see something in the next few days. Fingers crossed!!

Yeah you are right. I did loose the 17 pounds really fast. I think my body is just trying to get used to loosing. I haven't lost weight in so many years. It's probably thinking what the hell is going on? Lol

Ok thanks I'm going to try to down load it!

You are so lucky you don't have to loose any weight before hand. This is the hardest thing I have ever done. It's mainly hard because I have a daycare and two Foster children plus my own one year old. With all the stress with the kids daily I just want to eat all day long. I have been fighting my self. I went out and bought sugar free Popsicles and sugar free Jello to try to curb those urges. Hopefully I can get through this. Good luck with your revision and congrats on your two little boys!! Eventually I want to have a biological child. My one year old is adopted. But my goal is to loose weight first.

I have found that everyone does have an opinion. I have to cut people off because a lot of people want to tell you want bad things they have heard. I only take advice from people who have and the surgery. That way I can form my own opinion. That's why I like this site!! And I was thinking about going on the liquid diet just to loose these last 17 pounds. I think I will start tomorrow.

Thanks !! And I am trying to stay positive as well. It's hard because I don't have any support around me. These forums has become my best friend lately. I like reading everyone's stories the good and the bad. They have really helped me decide that I want this surgery. So this 34 pounds is gong to be the first step to my new life. Keep me posted about your surgery and recovery I would love to hear how things are going. Also give me an idea of what to expect when it's my turn.

Hello Lisa and welcome! I am also new here I have only been on here about two weeks. I am pre surgery as well. I totally understand about loosing and gaining it all back. I have done that in the past many times. Right now I weigh 467 pounds my highest weight was 491. I have just started this process. I have to loose 34pounds before my doctor will start the process. He wants me at 450. I believe that this surgery is going to be a tool that helps us loose weight and keep it off. I can loose weight all day but with out help I know I will gain it back. This site has been a tremendous help to me. People are so supportive here. If you have any questions someone has been there and done that so they can surely answer your questions. Don't stress yourself out and worry about things. This is a tool and it will defiantly help you loose and keep it off. Good luck on your journey!!

I'm not weighing my food. I don't have a scale. I drink the Adkins shake for breakfast and then two small meals. I also have two snacks if needed. I got my plan from the dietitian I am seeing. She gave me ideas for meals. I've cut out all the breads and pastas. I stopped drinking pop a few years ago so that's not a problem. I really just think I lost so much so fast that I'm at a plateau. I lost17 pounds in 2weeks. Alot of that was water weight. Hopefully I start to loose again in the next few days.

So I am pre surgery and since my first appointment July 5th I am down 17 pounds. I have to loose 34pounds before my surgeon will start my process. I know I shouldn't complain but I have been working so hard. Yes I have had some good days and some bad days. But I feel like I am at a plateau and I was just wondering how long with this plateau last? I don't want to give up or get discouraged. I need this surgery. I feel like its life or death with me. Does anyone have any advice for getting past this stall?

Yeah its hard when family doesn't understand what you are going through. I'm glad that there is a place to go so I can't vent. I get more support here then I get from my family. That's mainly because they are all happy being fat. I'm not its painful and I don't like not being able to do things with my daughter. She's young now but she's going to grow up. People are going to make fun of her because her mom is fat. I don't want to put her through that. I have to do this. I'm not giving up!! Thanks for your support!! And I hope your husband understands why you are doing this.

Girl I need this surgery too!! I have a 1year old who depends on me. I want to see her grow up. I also want to be able to go out side and do things with her. Right now I can hardly walk and it's not fair to her. I'm praying about it every night!! Good luck!!

I know exactly how you feel. I'm struggling with these 34 pounds. If I see or smell food my brain tells me I'm hungry and I need to eat right now!! We just have to have will power. We can do this !!

Single here and checking in!! I can't wait to start to live again. I'm pre op and hopefully will have my surgery in the next few months. I was married in 2003 and divorced in 2005. Now I am single with an adopted baby girl. I'm not sure if I'm ready to date just yet I'm thinking in a year or so after my surgery. I'm ready to be loved again. good luck everyone with finding love!!

Welcome!! And you are lucky! I have to loose 34 pounds before I even start my paper work. Good luck with your surgery I can't wait to get my date!!

I'm with you on this one. I feel like its going to be the last super for me as well. I have talked with a few people who had the bypass and they all say you do mourn the food for about a month but then you start to eat different. They also said our taste buds change. So I'm just hoping that I will have the strength to get passed it. I wish you luck!! We are both more important then food!!!

I have just started the process of loosing 34 pounds before I start the initial pre-op party. I'm down 17 so far but I feel like I am mourning food as well. I'm scared I'm not going to get the 34 off. I'm drinking a shake for breakfast and then two small meals. I also throw in two snacks if I need them. But every time I leave the house it's a struggle not to stop and get some fast food. How do you coop with these cravings and feelings?