I think it will really help if you join a support group, I am pre-op and I found one and its great, you can see different people struggling and in the same boat as you and me, and it motivates you to see that you are not the only one. Look at pictures of people in here and their accomplishments, I am trying to loose 15 pounds on my own before the surgery and believe me sometimes I feel like I am just wasting my time, or I think That Maybe I should just love my big body, but then I think about my medical problems, and not being able to get in ride at the fair with my kids and spending $30 on a cheap shirt lol, and I said to myself NO MORE! I want to wear normal shoes, regular cute clothes and live life to the max! So i force my self, and with time, within a year i will be better and next year maybe finally i can buy a bathing suit!!!!! =) Hang in there is only been a few days, you will see the difference soon enough. Email me if you need someone to talk!