CupofJojo

I know! I was in a store earlier today looking at clothes and it dawned on me, no need to pick out clothes that I won't fit into next year:-D!

Woot woot! I am PUMPED! I know the journey is going to have some ups and downs but it is worth it to finally be free!!! This year is the start of our NEW LIFE!

Woot woot! :-D :-) <3

Thanks! I am just feeling pretty uncomfortable in my fat suit, it's like an itchy sweater, lol!

...for my weight journal, and OMG I'm starting to resent my "fat body" WAY more now after seeing it (without shirt) in photos! At my highest weight, I had zero self esteem until I finally decided to love myself as I was. Now that I am super close to surgery I have been hating every inch of fat on my body! Is this normal? I had finally made peace with my body, dressed it with cute clothes, nice shoes, jewelry, perfume, make up, etc.....but Now, I could care less about all those temporary fixes! I want my little body back. :-/

You look great!!! Thanks for the inspiration! Oh and I can't help but notice the definition in your arms, that has always been a problem area for me. But yours look good. :-)

Hi 1day1life, I was an f cup before my last baby and now ddd. I am SO looking forward to not having my "straps" cutting my shoulders! However, I wouldn't mind staying in the d category . :-)

Lipsticklady you look incredible!!! This is great inspiration for me! :-)

Proudgrammy when did you have surgery?

Looking for body twin(s). Both pre-op or post. I am SO curious about what my body might look like after surgery as well as adding friends with similar body types. Pretty sure my op date will be Jan 2013, yay! 5`3.5` 260 48-40-50 Goal:150-145ish Shape: Hour glass-ish, lol Oh and what's your goal weight? [ATTACH]38910[/ATTACH]

Oh and if I can find a sexy,two piece bathing suit that compliments my new body, I'm definitely planning on rocking it! Lmbo! :-D

YES! I know what you mean! I had gotten used to my husband NOT being there, due to heavy work schedule. The few times we are all together, I'm still in solo mode! We talked about him getting off third shift today, 20 years and 5 kids later might I add, and now about to be skinny again, lol! He may not show me a lot of romantic attention, but he most definitely notices other guys checking me out. I've always been a "curvy girl," but I imagine I will have a super confidence boost as the weight comes off.

You're right. I was just thinking the same thing. :-)

Sometimes I wonder if I needed to feel invisible for some reason. Was I scared to be noticed too much? Why was I more comfortable in the role of the behind-the-scenes person who keeps everything clicking along for everybody else instead of being front & center in my own life? And how much of my getting upset at the hubs for paying more attention to me now is really more about my discomfort with increased attention from everybody else around me? I don't know...I don't have the answers, but it's definitely one of the head trips that a lot of us have to work through as we move along this path. I guess it's kinda sad but true, sometimes something drastic has to take place in order for a change to occur. :-/

I wonder on average, how many men spend time thinking about their wives in not so much of a sexual manner ALL time. But as a person. Recognizes their wife for who she is and not so much what she DOES. I'm guilty of taking that role in the relationship. (invisible glue holdin family/house together) But I did it bc I thought that would be the best way for everyone else to get what they needed. In that process I lost my identity and turned to high calorie comfort foods to fill the void. Now that I am getting surgery, I have to remember who I was before.

EXACTLY!!!! It's like, the stuff he used to do before we got married. I felt like an important treasure that he just HAD to have. But as bad as it sounds, if he just all the sudden starts doing this stuff again after I start loosing and turning heads...what an I suppose to think?

I mean to be totally honest, without sounding vein, he's always been attracted to me, physically. But it's just been sexual- minus the romance. I go a whole day, week or weeks without him inquiring how my day was, but still expected to give it up in the bedroom. :-/ I just don't know how I would handle him paying more attention to me... or making an effort to get a babysitter to take me out...or to offer to go grocery shopping etc, when he hasn't been doing that stuff after all this time.

I could really use the support right now. I guess I'm having a have time with the idea of my husband treating me "better" after I have the surgery. Noticing me more, giving me more attention etc. It's kinda messing with my head. With all of the stuff I do, five kids, him, his family and everything else Ive been through. My whole life has been caring for them and I'm virtuously invisible. Is THIS process going to be the one thing that makes me visible again?

I have actually have. I think I made a mistake posting this.Way to complicated. Anyone know how to delete a post please?

Well being married to a workaholic most of his attention is focused on that. Romance was a big part of our marriage while we were dating. We would go out, take in a movie and basically I was treated as his number one priority. I guess I am concerned about how over the years I have missed it, even more so now that I'm getting more active. I have expressed my feelings, but he feels attacked. So when we are together, he's more interested in telling me about work and sex. I wonder if it might change after surgery.

Was you marriage more romantic driven or sex driven before surgery? And what about after??? Going through some pretty tuff emotions right now, I need some help.:-(

I have been around people that have "flashed" on me as well. I am glad that you are choosing to focus on your recovery and the children, rather then engaging in an endless argument. I find that the person doing that has been holding in a lot of anger, frustration with themselves or emotional pain. Some relationships I felt the need to end, for my own sanity. For others, it was not as easy. I now choose to not respond to certain comments and I have learned mostly to communicate more effectivly. I ask people what they need from me and I tell them what I need from them.

Typos! Not "looking" not flooding. And "at least" not attests.

Hi Mary! This whole process seems like it's taking too long! I am SO ready to start flooding. I have been "dieting" or I should say, geting myself ready for the upcoming changes for a few weeks now. I don't have to loose weight to qualify for insurance but I would attests like to see my efforts show on the scale. Are you keeping a food diary?