I totally agree with Nicolanz. At least she confessed...right? It does, hurt now, but you will find peace again. This very potential situation was stressed to me and my partner at my surgery consultation. Apparently, it is a very frequent thing for partners/spouses to breakup/divorce after WLS. When a person has WLS, sometimes the other half just can't deal with the change. So you have to ask yourself, was she really "in love" with you prior to the WLS or did she just "love you." There is a difference in those 2 things. Congrats on your WLS journey and don't give up!!