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For my band I didn't tell anyone but a hand full of people. Very private. No one at work even knew. I started being open about having the band about 2 years later. Now, most know. But, my surgery to get it removed and replace with the sleeve is back private. Not even my manager knows, and he's had the sleeve and is one of the reasons I'm going to get it. Only my husband and a dear friend know. Just 2.

Hmm, my dr. is saying I can go back in 4 days. Surgery on Wed back to work on Monday. I kinda want this, cause 1, I don't have any vacation time, and 2, I don't want anyone at work to know. Only my supervisor knows I'll be doing something medical. Everyone else I'll just be on vacation. Hope I can manage.

So I'm scheduled for Oct 31 for my band to sleeve conversion. Timing and pricing is so perfect for everything, but my hubby is not on board with the surgery at all. I was trying to be understanding to his concerns, and prove to him that risks of the surgery are worth the potential weight loss for me. I know he loves me, and has a hard time communicating his feelings at times, so I'm seeing his actions as just being a man. I think he's worried, he'll be a widow. I need his support. I don't want to do this without his support. Even if he doesn't agree, I still feel like he should still be there to support me. In an effort to passively bring up the fact that I'm getting the surgery, I told him that being a parent, is about loving your child, warning them about risks, hoping for the best, saying I told you so when you're right, but most importantly, always being there when they fall. He was so mad he didn't even want to talk about it tonight. Time is ticking. I just hope he comes around and doesn't make this about him and allows me to do this for me because I need and want to be healthy.

I agree with AFormerlife, take lots of pictures. I remember going to walmart at 2 in the morning before my lap band surgery to find a camera that had a timer to take pictures of myself. If you like to read, find something nice and long to read.

Yea, the time went by really fast for me. I think mine was scheduled for 11:30 and I was there for 8am. No food or Water from 12am until after the EGD too. But once at the hospital, I felt really welcomed and taken care of, I hope yours is the same. After the procedure, you will thank your lucky stars for the ride home. I was ok, physically, but thinking or making important decisions was a bust. I scheduled a phone interview for right after the procedure, and I was a complete air head! Thinking gave me an instant and sharp headache.

Katie, do you see the differences between your posts and the real supporters here? You sound like, as you actually do, work in a dr's office. 4 years out you are so removed from how the surgery felt you couldn't even answer the question from your actual experience. Sorry Sadie, but I opened this thread because I was interested in the topic, and your question was one I hadn't thought of, given that I'm in a very similar situation. The real supports of this forum offered personal experiences as to their pain, but this Katie woman is a poser, a fake, who works for a dr. that almost killed another member on this forum. So when I see Katie's post, especially when they don't even answer the question from a true patient perspective, I get annoyed. If you wanted the standard answer to the question of recovery you would have asked your Dr.'s assistant.

So how had your pregnancy been with the restricted food intake? Are you hungry more/less? Did your OBGYN say anything you have to do special because you had the sleeve?

WOW. This is exactly why I'm here!! My husband is very much against me getting this surgery. Like many others he's saying I just need to eat right and be more active. I don't know what to do. We are newly married, only 1 month, and he's viewing MY decision about MY body as much more. He feels I'm defying him as my husband.

Like to many on this board I've been overweight my entire life. The moment for me that's stuck in my head is a conversation I had with my ex husband only months after over separation. I was 22, and weighted well over 250 pounds. Throughout our 3 year marriage, he was very much in shape, yet killed any drive I had to lose weight myself. Actually saying he didn't want a skinny woman, and would leave if I lost weight. Well, in this conversation, he says to me, "yea, your weight was an issue for me". That was 2002, 10 years ago, and not only do I still remember the his words, but I remember the hurt and still feel it when I remember that conversation. In 2008 at about 270ish I had the Lap band surgery, without complications. Overall, the Band hasn't worked in helping me lose weight. It has helped me maintain my weight. Before the band, I averaged 250-275...with the band my average has been 230-250. In 2010 I started having problems with the band and had to remove all fills. I attempted to get it removed, but didn't have the right insurance at the time. However, I got engaged in October of 2011, and in May of 2012, started a very serious bootcamp in which I lost 30 lbs before our wedding in September. I'm the smallest I've ever been in my life at 220. My insurance now is such that I've been approved to not only get the band removed but to also get the Gastric Sleeve. My husband is NOT AT ALL interested in getting the sleeve, given all the potential complications. I'm full of fear of being that 275lb woman in a few years, this time with kids, that no man will want. I Need support and guidance on what to do........