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Congrats. That's awesome.

On my goodness Fitjen, you have great strength. What a coward to leave you at this time in your life! Guess he forgot the vow, "in sickness". Prayers for you as your recover!

i had a band to sleeve conversion, so I think I have an extra incision that sleeves only won't have. It's about 2 inches and is the source of most of my pain. Makes using my ab muscles difficult. I started eating full liquids on yesterday, having grits, and a Popsicle. The grits really had me full. The grits kept me full most the night for the first time since the surgery. I woke about 5 am from hunger and again at 6:30, as I tried eating a yogurt instead of the grits. Tonight ill def have the grits to try a get thought the night. I am scheduled to go into work tomorrow but will be calling in sick, as I need one for day to get back into the swing of things So far I'm down to 212 from 221 since the surgery. Guess its normal, for the recovery process. I look forward to getting to mush foods to increase my calorie intake a bit.

Hey there. How's the recovery coming along?

This is a great post. I've been very concerned about losing too much weight too quickly as I want to keep my curves and don't want loose skin either. I look forward to eating like normal people lol. So do you have any issues with any food types?

Wow, I precisely measured out my 1 oz cup of grits, very excited about having my first non liquid food since the surgery. Figured I'd get at least 1/2 way done, but was taking it very very slowly. Even found a very tiny spoon to eat with. 4 bites later and I'm full, really fully. I've been trying to be cautious of getting overly full as it causes my left shoulder to have this very sharp pain. Now...about 4 hours since my first post, I'm still full...whooooooohooooo!!!! This is the longest I've been full since coming home. I wonder how long it will last.

There is regular and zero. Zero has 6 carbs.

Good grief. My stomach is like a new born baby. It goes from being fine and sleep. To a raging roar, screaming FEED ME NOW! The pain is intense and wakes me if I'm sleeping. Having 1 oz of grits to try and quite this baby lol

Natural way my large A$$, geez that strikes a nerve with me. Every time my husband would say that, all conversations would just stop. Ugh. Just so annoying for someone to speak on how easy something is, when they aren't living with the problem. While in preop I was visited by a male nurse who also had the sleeve. He was so reassuring. His wife got the surgery before him, and I think a few months later he did too. He lost over 100 lb already. I know I don't have that much to lose, but that's now...in 4 years after a few kids, who knows how large I would be. I dont argue with stupidity or arrogance. There is no point. I value the opinion of someone who's experienced the problem over someone who's talking in theory. .

Diamond.... If that's your real name, remember its meaning. Diamonds are strong, the only thing that can cut a diamond, is a diamond. You are strong. You had 5 children, that's proof enough. I see your pain, as I've been in a similar situation of not being wanted by the man I loved. But you have to find a way to love yourself and your children first. You are coming here for support, and everyone is telling you to think about YOURSELF not about him and your responses keep going back to how you feel about him, him, him. Lets talk about you. You don't need him to go to counseling with you, you go by yourself. You will learn more about yourself then you ever thought you knew. Most counseling I've ever attended, works from the perspective of each person taking responsibility and fixing his/her actions. Not finger pointing or trying to force a person to do something he is not ready to do. So start by fixing you. Do what's right for you.

Hey there.... You are far from alone in how you feel and how your husband is acting. View my profile and my posts and you will find similar stories of emotional wives and seemingly withdrawn husbands. Personally, my husband has done a 180 in his response to this decision since the surgery. I drove myself to the hospital to get the surgery, but once he realized I was ok, he's been overly caring for me. I'm not saying that same will happen to you as I don't know your husband. But what I am trying to say, is don't let his reaction to the surgery be the reason you two breakup. If your heart is set on it, and you know your body, then stick to your feelings. I do recommend relationship counseling. My hubby and I have just started seeing one.

It went well. I have a thread about it in the share your stories section.