fl_cowgirl

I hate to tell you this but my father was mentally, verbally and physically abusive towards our mother when we were growing up (I was the oldest of 4). He is still mentally and verbally abusive but the physical has largely stopped but I think only because my youngest brother still lives at home and he is huge (6'4" and 300lbs) and my dad is a midget in comparison (5'11 170). He has never changed but I have no doubt that his behavior impacted all of us. I decided at a young age that I would not be with a man that was like my dad. Things did not turn out so well for my other siblings. My 32 yr old brother drifts from job to job barely surviving making money to support his next high. My sister is 23 and she is doing ok but she falls "in love" with every man she has a relationship with and she is such can't maintain a normal relationship because she is such a hot head. My youngest brother is 22 and he has a nearly 2 yr old daughter that he is nearly a single parent to because the baby's mamma wants to party like she is childless. Thankfully he has stepped up to his responsibility but he can't find a job to provide support which is why he lives with my parents (and his daughter). I really believe that if my mother had left my father regardless of how much our family would have struggled financially - we, the children, would have turned out better. Healthier and more stable. I am the only one of the four of us that has a stable, normal family. My husband and I have been married 16 years. No one deserves to be belittled and talked to like that. Here is my hope for you; get your sleeve, lose that weight and gain the self confidence that you need to be able to stand up for yourself in the face of that foolishness. Best wishes, Hope