I'm in the same boat! My mom is totally against my choice to have surgery. She asked me the same thing, "have I tried WeightWatchers?" (yes) but I had to tell her last time I talked to her that I did not want every conversation to become her convincing me not to get my surgery! Even though I know she is responding out of love and concern for my well being. My surgery date is pending right now, prob Aug/Sept. But I'm already on my pre-surgery weight-loss plan. The wheels are in motion and I'm excited even though I'm hungry! I've decided not to give her my actual surgery date since she has already brought so much negative feedback to my plans. I do have many supporters and that makes a huge difference! I think you should get involved with a support group in your area and meet some people who have already gone through the process! Online forums are nice, but nothing beats being face to face with the future you in the form of other WLS success stories!