Welcome to the forum Miki. I'm a father and also do a lot of cooking for my family. Yes, it is hard but don't give into temptation. Continue with the shakes. Gotta have two per day after surgery too so it's just a part of life now. About being quiet, YES. Yes I stayed quiet about it. Even told my wife NOT to talk about it to friends and family members. I didnt want any of them to know about it. I guess I was kinda embarrassed about it. I kinda felt like a fat ass loser for having surgery instead of doing it the "old fashioned" way like I've done so many times before. Funny thing though- towards the end of my pre-op diet, I talked about it to my mother in law. My wife looked at me kinda crazy cuz I had been adamant about not talking about it to family. I don't know what changed or how it changed- maybe it was the fear of the surgery, maybe it was a sense of accomplishment for my newfound willpower sticking to the protein shakes. When my wife called me out for mentioning it to my mother in law, I changed my mind about talking about it. Now I'm 1 week post op and still a little hesitant to talk about it to everyone, but fact is, I've lost 30 pounds. So when people say "are you losing weight?" Or they ask "where were you last Friday? I've never seen you miss work?" I just simply tell them that I had lap band surgery. I can't and shouldn't lie about it. It's the truth. And although I was embarrassed about my decision and wanted it to stay private at first, my results and newfound willpower drive me enough to feel proud about the decision I've made to do this