Steve_in_NJ

Forgive him for telling and it will free YOU from the stress of being upset or feeling angry at him. My wife agreed not to tell anyone too... and then she just told two of her closest friends, and she was being stopped in the supermarket by their extended family saying "I heard your husband is having surgery." We actually laughed about it when she told me, because she trusted "her closest friends" not-to-tell... and it was a learning experience for her - of how people actually behave when they know a secret. Having this surgery is not like having an STD, don't allow it to be a stigma in your life. Expecting your husband not to say anything to anyone is unreasonable. Turn it into a "positive" not one more thing to fight over... find a way to laugh about it. Tell him it's ok... you've just told your whole family that he's getting a penile implant. Perhaps he'll say "OK - I got the message." I've also found - that the harder I try to keep it from others - the more lies I have to tell & the awkward feelings that creates FOR ME. So I just say it - when I have to, and listen to the positive or negative comments, and move on knowing I'm doing this because I have to FOR ME.