keldolbeth

I'm still pre-op but, as a single woman, I worry about this too. I don't want to be more self-conscious at my goal weight than I am now. I've never been too weird about being naked around a guy I'm "involved" with. My train of thought was always "he can tell I'm a big girl. He obviously knows what he's getting himself into." lol However, the reasons for the body consciousness are obvious now, whereas after surgery they may be hidden. Yes, I worry too much... I've focused way too much on the possible negative results. Ugh! BUT, I will say that making your insecurities known just make them that more noticeable and apparent to men. Do whatever you can to make sure you feel confident about some of the other parts you can control... in an event like this I always make sure I have my toes, nails, hair, make-up done, everything shaved that needs to be, undergarments and outfit planned! It's all about getting into the right mindset! To echo some of the others, "if at first you don't succeed, try, try again!"

My friend and I have had this conversation many times! She's lost 70+ pounds (not surgical), I've lost 65 and hope to lose 130 more (three days until surgery). I've always told boyfriends I don't like the look or feel of it when it's too manicured! lol We all know the truth is that it's too labor-intensive, requires too much flexbility, involves "flying blind," makes my thighs and hanging stomach itch. I plan on getting waxed eventually... maybe not routinely but at least once because I've always wanted to and was too insecure. I just hope my extra skin doesn't shield it. My friend's husband lost 250 lbs from bypass and his "willy" is still hidden (although she agrees it did grow a lot).

I had the same concerns. I had a wedding while I was on my pre-op diet. My diet was strictly powdered packets I received from the DR and no real food. However, I asked the dietician about it and she said at the wedding I could have a piece of chicken and vegetables, even a few beers but no cake! Well, wedding got postponed anyway. For big events like that I would recommend not being anti-social but just trying to do everything in moderation and make wise choices. My challenge was friends and coworkers wanting to plan get-togethers and dinners during my pre-op diet (which was FOUR weeks). I hadn't told any of these people about the surgery so it made me kind of nervous. I just had to determine how important the event was or if the plans could be modified to accomodate my diet. I think post-op is going to be more difficult when it comes to social events... I have my sister's 21st, a concert, my BFF's 30th and another BFF's wedding I'm in, all within 2 months post-op!

I found this site a while ago but just joined today. I am a June 25th'er as well... in Cincinnati, Ohio. If this makes you feel any better, I've been on the pre-op diet for FOUR weeks! For my DR, that (is supposed to) means no real food, all powdered packets plus one Protein bar a day. I've found very few that I can stomach the taste of. If followed as prescribed, it's only 600-800 calories a day. In Week 2 I was at the gym and got very light headed and disoriented then threw up when I got home. Instead of telling me to eat more or have some meat, the dietician said "stop working out until surgery." That's how I was keeping myself busy so I wouldn't sit at home and think about my hunger. I had to lose 40 pounds before my DR would even let me schedule surgery. I've lost 65 total since Feb. I have had a few "cheats" but four weeks is a long time and I've surpassed their goals. The last two weeks have been the hardest because I'm a teacher and now that I'm out of school I don't have the same daily routine and have a whole day of opportunities to cheat! In other news, I'm freaking out... even though this has a 1.5 year process, it has yet to hit me. I live alone so I'm staying with my parents for at least a week. I told my younger sister she had to be there Sunday night because I will probably be crying hysterically or hyperventilating, or both! Good luck everyone!

Another June 25th here! Oww Oww! 3 days and I'm freaking out!