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Whooo Hooo! 52lbs gone for good 12 weeks only 32 to get to my goal. I'm pumped! I havent been this thin sence Jr High.

Hello skane10, I remember you walking in the hall at the hospital. I was sleeved on the 27th. This is a very important topic for married couples. A previous person stated that a large percent of WLS patients get divorced. I beleve this is true, but I think that is because a lot of people with already troubled relationships get WLS. I know in my case if I wasnt married to my ex I wouldn't have done it. That being said said I am very happy i had it and wouldn't change a thing about it. I'll explain my marriage. We were together for 20 years and married for 18. We like many others had a "accident" aka child. I loved her alot and was ready to spend the rest of my life with her, but I did tell her that we shouldn't get married just for the kid and she agreed. At the time we met she weighed 110lbs and was attractive but I didn't consider her sexy because she was a stick. I weighed 213. I knew I was a little stocky but I was completly confident in myself. I truly loved her and beleved she did me. After 14 years and 2 kids she weighed 135 and was as sexy as a porn star, I weighed 245. I noticed for a few years that she became very uneasy with her weight.. I didn't understand it she was 5'7" and weighed 135, I always told her she was beautifull, she did always have self confidence issues with her appearence normally it was her hair or her size 4 jeans were too tight. I was also noticing changes in our relationship she became very disconected physically and emotionaly. I confronted her about it and I was shocked, angerd, and crushed by her response. In the worse possible ways she attacted me. She said she only married me because of our first child, I was too fat and not what she imagined for her self, beleve me the words were a lot harsher. 2 months later I caught her cheating. We reconciled and I lost 50lbs by exercising and hiking. Over the last 6 years from when i lost the weight, and over time regained it. I noticed her self confidence never changed and our physical or emotional never fully came back. I wondered why because I lost all that weight and that was her main issue with me. I caught her cheating again and again she blamed me and my weight. I tried to reconclie with no luck. We seperated in March and I decided on WLS. I had my surgery on 6/27 and the divorce papers were filed. She left me everything even the kids. I've have a girlfriend now and for the last few months and we have been camping horseback riding ect. Last night we went to a livestock fair. While we were there she told me that she was married 2 twice before, I knew this but didn't care about it. She continued and complimenting me by saying over her last marriages and boyfriends I was the first to completly help her with either setting up or saddling up and open doors for her. One of her close girlfriends was with us at the same time. I was shocked because she has been doing this stuff for 20 years. Then I started really thinking about it and looking at my failed marriage. When I had little projects It would be like pulling teeth to get my ex to help but I always help with her stuff. I would always be the one to set up date nights, I had to initiate sex and every morning before work I would kiss her on the cheek and say i loved her, I would randomly bring her flowers, stuffed animals, open doors for her, compliment her etc.. I realized how one sided my marriage was I never really got back what I put into our relationship from even before we had our problems. I hardly ever got a random compliment or even a thank you for helping with something. I beleve I loved her so much that it blinded me to noticing how insecure she was with herself, this is why I think she cheated, as the guys were always way younger, and from how onesided the relationship was.

***** UPDATE ***** 9 weeks out and 45lbs down. DRAFT BEER = I can drink it fine. I get full quick on it but no pain.

Kittenkate - thank you for that input it was a bottled beer that caused my discomfort. I will try a draft beer and let everyone know how it goes. On the wine topic, My girlfriend and my doctor got me into drinking wine. Since my sleeve I've noticed that wine needs to be chilled or on ice.

Thank you Susan you just gave me hope. I was wondering if I was going to give up my dream of a kegerater next to my grill. I am a low BMI vsg patient. I really have not been counting calories or watching my carbs. I do go to bootcamp twice a week. I am at 7 1/2 weeks and I'm at nearly half my goal. I am loving my sleeve. I'm fine giving up sodas but the beer was making me a little uneasy.

Hello Everyone, I am 7 weeks post op. My surgen said wait 6 weeks before any alchohol. I have had a few mixed drinks, Mike's lemonades, wine coolers with no problems. About a week ago I had a drink of my girlfriends beer and it almost had me on the floor in pain. I'm guessing in was the carbonation. Has anyone else has this problem with beer or how long should it be until we can have carbonated liquids.

6 weeks post op and 35lbs down from surgery weight and 40lbs down from my preop diet.

I was wondering if I will ever be able to drink water like I could pre op. I'm in construction and yesterday I had to work outside in Arizona at 108 degrees. I got dehidrated very quick. I could not drink enough water fast enough. I did drink so much that I vomited from drinking too much too fast. It was only about 8oz. I am 2 weeks post op.

I'm 1 day shy of 2 weeks post op. My weight at surgery was 224 with a bmi of 34, this morning I was 202 and a bmi of 29. I will confess I have cheated but seriously. iI it still cheating when you can eat only so much. I tried a 6" sandwich from subway I ate 1/4 of it over 6 hours. I had a "Super Pretzel" and medium Lemonaid at the movies and only ate 1/4 of it It took all 2 hours for me to drink the lemonaid.

I had to change my Surgery date and surgen due to schedule conflict. New date June 20th and new surgen Dr. Garcia. I had to change surgens because the soonest Dr. Almanza could get me in was in July and I couldn't wait that long. I am still happy it is happening less the 2 weeks away. Hurray!

I always pay out of pocket for medical care. It's is way cheaper than insurance. Why should I pay 50% more for more red tape. It's just a better economily.

June 13th in Tijuana. Cant wait to get it done.