I have a friend who has lost 50+ lbs on her own with diet and exercise. I told her I was contemplating surgery and she made comments about how she did it on her own. Made me feel as though considering surgery was a stupid decision. That I should be able to work my ass off to lose the weight myself. I guess there is a part of me that thinks that as well. I guess what Ive realized is that the rude comments can be in our own heads as well.