Happymee

I was very selective at first. I was banded on November 18, 2011 and walking into surgery, my parents and boyfriend were the only ones I'd shared with. I was optimistic about the band and new in my heart I was making the right choice for me. The position I didn't want to get into was defending my decision to anyone. It was my choice to make and one I didn't make lightly. I researched for a long time before finalizing my plans. That all being said, I live in a two family home with my "father in-law" downstairs. I was worried he might think I was sick. We have dinner together a couple times a week so he would notice a huge difference in my eating habits. Added to that, Thanksgiving was the following week and I was on liquids. My boyfriend was the one to tell him. After being asked for my reasons, we were able to move on. When he understood that I was concerned with the sleep apnea, diabetes and other weight related health issues, he was very understanding. I want to be around for my 5 year old son. That was my biggest reason for making this decision. A decision I would make again. I don't regret having the lap band surgery, I just wonder why I didn't try this sooner.
My last comment would be, it's ok to be upset at him for saying something, but did you ask him why he told her? Perhaps he needed someone (from outside the situation) to talk to about what you would be dealing with and going through. Maybe he had concerns he was afraid of sharing with you. Just a thought. Best of luck in your future success.

HappyMEE --- you should get in a better frame of mind... If you are setting yourself up to NOT LOSE any weight...........it means you haven't used the LB as a tool.....
In addtiion to the LB surgery, you need to change how/what you eat and also get into an exercise program....
I had my surgery 3 years ago - and can not imagine someone having it and NOT losing weight---
it IS difficult --- the weight did not come off easily -- and it doesn't STAY OFF easily - I still struggle EVERY DAY with eating.
I am NOT hungry --- I eat because i LIKE TO EAT!!!!
I have seen people lose 100 lbs after LB surgery -- and now they have gained it all back --- because they have learned how to eat what they want......
Set yourself up to do well -- succeed!!!!
It takes lots of effort and work --- YOU CAN DO IT!!!
Good Luck!
and p,s. I told EVERYONE --- so that I could be held accountable.
I felt if I did NOT tell people --- then I wouldn't have to be worried about getting caught eating food........etc.
I needed help to lose weight - the LB was one tool, having others watch and see was another.........i enjoyed the "negative Nelly's" -- they motivated me to do the right thing!!!
GOOD LUCK!!!!!

I'm getting banded in March and I'll telling the world. Then I will know that they are watching me so hopefully the more eyes on me I will work harder.