caligirl07

Hi Both me and my husband are overweight. He is still going thru the process to get the lapband. I am trying to be very supportive through this time, but all i keep thinking is what if he looses weight and just leaves? We have been trying to conceive for over a yr and a half with no luck and all have heard it might be our weight. Our insurance doesnt cover infertility & the costs are way to high to see a infertility dr. He is trying to encourage me to also go to the dr to see about having the surgery, but I feel like he just wants me to look a certian way because he is. I would LOVE to loose weight we have tried many of diets together he lost a total of 84 lbs and I have lost about 30 lbs. We are still on a diet thru his process and sometimes it's still as struggle. When he came back from a meeting i made the comment of him caring more about his surgery then trying to concieve and we got into argument about it. I was in a funk because all our friends have recently have a baby. I mean we has been spending money for every dr visit. he had to spend a pretty penny to see a nutritionist & psychologist. I was just upset because we aren't getting younger and I know he wants me to get surgery so we can both be happy but i'm scared if i dont he will probably leave.