kpbrighton

I LOVE THIS!!!!! I have had the "Eat to live, not live to eat" mantra in my head for the past week. But the whole 'divorce' idea is cool. Thanks for the smile and outlook!

ok...so can you come over and talk to my sister?? kidding. But thanks for the frank comments. You're right. I am doing this for me and thank God I have my hubby with me every step of the way. Oh and my mom said she'll be really mad at me if I get it done...BUT she is going to the seminar with me Thursday. We'll see. I'm thankful she is at least going to that with me. Thanks for the support, ideas and smiles!

You're completely right! She has no idea what "FAT" really feels like. Love the support here...thank you!

Thanks...I was skeptical about posting on one of "these types" of websites. But I've read the "that's how I felt", "You're not alone" and "I totally understand". It amazing what those phrases and hearing others experiences does to my confidence and acceptance. Thanks for the support!

She says that I haven't really tried to lose weight before. That all I need to do is exercise everyday...and that it's going to take a long time to do. She works in a hospital and I know she sees the bad side of surgery's. Growing up - like during High school - we weren't that close. I was definitely not popular, she was very popular. Also I am 3 years older than her. Once I had my 3 girls we were much closer. Now she is expecting her first baby. I don't know...I love her very much, but I feel so judged by her. She keeps telling me I don't know what I'm getting myself into. That I am just looking for a quick and easy fix. Thanks for your comments

I was sure down when I got to work this morning. Thanks everyone for your inspiring, true and thoughtful comments. Can't wait till Thursday for my seminar and to get moving on my surgery date. My mom IS coming with me to the seminar Thursday. She says she still thinks its a horrible idea and will be mad if I go through with it. But, hey, at least she's coming with me. SO happy I found this site. I love the weight trackers at the bottom of everyone's comments. You all are VERY inspiring...Thanks! HAPPY MONDAY!

I want to have Weight Loss Surgery because I want to be healthy! I feel this may be one of the most selfish things I’m attempting to do in my life. Because I know it is SOLELY for me! I know that I have unconditional love from my husband and three little girls. But I want to be thinner! I am not hoping to be a size 2 or wear a bikini - I just want to feel healthier and have more energy. I know that I have been fortunate so far not to have any major health issues due to my weight. However, I am VERY overweight and have tried diets, exercise programs and have read many books. I want to be a good example for my girls on how to eat healthy and live an active lifestyle. I am a Middle School teacher. I spend 3 hours of my day walking around our very LARGE building. I get 60+ minutes of walking in everyday! I don’t want to be winded walking up the stairs, I don’t want my feet to hurt, and I especially don’t want to feel self-conscious walking around the building. I feel I am a fairly confident person once I get to know people. However, I am tired of being “the fat girl” in my group of girlfriends. I have a younger sister who is tall and thin. I am tired of being “the fat sister”. Every time my husband and I go out to a party, to a wedding or even just to dinner – I ALWAYS feel self conscious about my weight. I have a wonderful life – except for my weight. I know that WLS is not a quick fix. I know it will be tough and take a lot of work on my part. But I want to be healthy and I can’t do it on my own.

I am new to this site - but thought I'd try a forum since I can't seem to find anything when I search for info. I am considering VSG. I have my seminar Thursday and an appointment to meet my surgeon later this month. My husband is very supportive of me having WLS. However, my sister, who is 3 years younger and has always been tall and thin is VERY AGAINST me having WLS. I have grown up being "the fat sister" and I don't want to feel that way anymore. HELP!!! Have any of you had experiences with unsupportive family members??? What did you do? How did you deal with this "judgement". I feel judges when I talk to her about this.