I am trying to get surgery right now. We move in 3 months (ish) and I don't know what my new ward will be like. Part of my feels like it is my business. Instead of lying, I favor deflection ("you look great, too!"). Probably not any better morally, but I feel better about it. The other part of me figures people at church are really nice anyway (maybe to nice...but thats a different story). If/when people find out they will be nice to me no matter what they think. Thats often the way the mormons work.