Earlier today I posted a then/now style picture to a bariatric FB group and to my own personal FB page. I see myself small changes but I do not see the major difference that other people seem to gush over. I know it's there, because I am down sizes and the clothes I can't seem to part with drape like crazy. I like to do the side by side pic just to see and today it kinda floored me.

As soon as I posted, I got the "You look amazing" "You look fantastic". In my head, I followed up every compliment with "in comparison".

Because of this, I am changing my strategy. This journey is NOT about how I look, it's about changing my life and how I feel in my own skin.

So from now on, I will no longer tell anyone they look amazing. If you're getting a compliment from me it will be "You look like you feel fantastic.

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My inner fat chick had a chip on her shoulder. Society is judgmental about our weight. When I was heavy I had a lot of negative feed back from people. Now its positive. Most people compliment with no intention of offending us. I just say a quick thank you and move on. I can't change social norms.

Interesting..thank you for your post.I am such a private person...I never recieved compliments on my looks so its hard to take them as I start this journey..my thought is..why do the same people who didn't see me when I wasnt on this journey care now!? I never speak it out loud.smh..I know I too am working on the inner me with the guard up..and now just focusing on the healthy me/my feelings....good luck on your journey..sleeved Nov 9th so I'm a work in progress: D

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YOU GO GIRL

I SEE A DRASTIC DECREASE

KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK

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The funny thing is that there is a difference, but I am still extremely overweight 240 on a 5' 1.5" frame. I look better, but I don't look fantastic (except in comparison)...lol. I always say thank you and act graciously, but my point is that it made me cognizant of what I say to other people. I'm just going try t be more aware of what I'm saying.

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My inner fat chick had a chip on her shoulder. Society is judgmental about our weight. When I was heavy I had a lot of negative feed back from people. Now its positive. Most people compliment with no intention of offending us. I just say a quick thank you and move on. I can't change social norms.

Awesome post.