Sleepless in So Cal

Couple years post divorce. Totally believe in love. Tried many mainstream and "specialty" online dating services. But everyone I met seemed like they either wanted to get married right away, or was just looking to mess around. What happened to getting to know someone, and dating one person at a time? Just put dating on the back burner while I work on my health & other goals. Kind of convinced it's not possible to meet someone during this WLS journey until it & other goals have been met. Especially in my area, small kind of cut off community where it seems there are no single guys around my age that can get past the weight, let alone during or after WLS. Then what about the loose skin, and once elective surgery is done, the scars from that? At what age, weight, and location does who we are, and what we are about start mattering more than the shape we are in? Grew up in the country, and miss men that know who to fix things, enjoy being outside, and don't blink at changing a tire or holding a door. So apart from a sympathetic cowboy, or a fellow bari buddy, what's a woman to do? Planning on moving out of state in a few years...maybe then