I was suppose to start my blended diet on 11/9 but just starting today 11/11. My pre opp evaluation is tomorrow and I'm both nervous and scared. I'm almost sure I've gained back half the weight I had lost in the last sixth months due to recent junk binges knowing it's the last time/chance I will get to eat and experience that junk.

I hate cottage cheese, and yogurt! I need help with this blended diet thing!

what is a blended diet?

I don't want to sound rough, but if you have been eating a lot of junk food right before your pre-op evaluation because you cannot bear the thought of not eating it after surgery, perhaps you have issues with food that need to be resolved before you have surgery. If you are not already doing it. getting counseling would be a great idea. Surgery is only a tool to lose weight - a lot of commitment to a new way of eating and thinking about food is needed for it to be a success long term. Having the surgery doesn't mean that you will never be 'able' to eat that junk food - and perhaps once in a blue moon it might be okay - but it is a slippery slope - there are people out there that do - lose control - and manage to gain back every ounce of weight they ever lost.

Rather, if you change your relationship with food and are committed to lifelong changes, you will be successful at losing weight, keeping it off and remaining healthy for the remainder of your life.

I am trying to be helpful here - I am about 4 weeks out from surgery and I know that pre-op and post-op diets suck - but they not only have a purpose but also help train us to be disciplined and to refocus us on what is important.

Are you ready for surgery? I am not being facetious, but it is a rhetorical question.

This surgery is not an easy way out of being obese. It takes an immense amount of dedication, sacrifice, personal reflection and change. It does not in anyway fix your relationship with food, that is completely up to you. 100%.

Many of us (including me) have realized our relationship with food needs more than just our stomachs to be reduced to almost nothing and our intestines re-routed. We have sought the help of therapists and or support groups. Me, personally, I see a therapist once a week, attend Overeater's Anonymous twice monthly and attend a local WLS support group once a week. Yes, yes, yes it takes that kind of dedication for some of us and yes, yes, yes it is important to realize if you'll need that kind of dedication. I might not always need all that support but I know right now I do. Making this surgery a success is important and not a privilege. There are millions of people who will never be give the chance at a new life; don't take it for granted.

You must learn to not see this journey as giving up on something important but gaining so much more than a great burger, a bag of Doritos, a big plate of Italian, a heaping bowl of ice cream or a few Snacks in front of the TV. You are going to transform into a person you didn't even know existed. A woman who is healthy, confident, active, adventurous and above all else, NOT OBESE. Imagine the shopping you'll do at a healthy weight, or the places you'll go that your weight held you back from, the new activities you'll try that you weight stopped you from doing or the confidence you'll have in your career, your personal relationships, your social life, with your family, with your friends...

I wish you the best and want you to succeed. You can and you will if you take all the strength you applied to eating and apply it towards succeeding.

I'm sorry for sounding so weak and helpless.

Hmmm...we all have our moments of weakness, but I doubt if you are weak and helpless. Every one of us has more strength inside us than we even realize. And none of us is perfect either. We are merely telling you like it is. The surgery can do great things for us, but it cannot crawl into our heads and change how we think about food and how we have used it to try to solve our problems. There is nothing wrong with admitting there is a problem and asking for help - in fact it is a sign of strength.

I know you are new to this site and want you to know that there is a lot of good information here and a lot of helpful people. I wish you every success with your journey