So a lot people keep talking about and mentioning divorce... When you have the surgery has anyone seen or heard experienced it? I just got my surgery date I'm having it to help with my pros and diabetes... So my husband and i can have kids in the future ... I'm 23 known my husband since elm. School....

The first surgeon I consulted after deciding to have weight loss surgery told me that the divorce rate among participants averages 70%.

Seemed very high at the time, but sense then I could see where it sounds more accurate.

I guess the normal divorce rate is over 50% anyway.......

A lot of changes occur with the weight loss. People feel better. People regain self esteem. Resentment can build from either party. The weight loser becomes much more active and wants to do things active folks do.

A lot of change occurs.

The spouse may not want any change to occur and want to do the same old things they always did.

It's understandable.

A healthy relationship pre-op will benefit.

An unhealthy relationship pre-op isn't going to be magically fixed.

I did it for health reasons like you said.

Some may be doing this for appearance reasons and have other plans.

I agree with @Dub. I think if you had problems before surgery, they may get worse, not better after surgery and if you have a healthy relationship prior to surgery, surgery can make it stronger.

Thanks I love this website I've been pretty positive through this bt that divorce thing just bugged me lol .... But makes sense

It's a number and the way I feel about it is that if you focus on that then it will happen. I refuse to give up on my relationship and I pretty sure my husband feels the same way. I did my surgery because of the pros. Had I not I would have been dead in 10 years! Divorce is not something I take light hearted and if you are that concerned you really need to sit your spouse down and have some serious talks before surgery.

I had my surgery on August 4th down 75 pounds so far and think my marriage is still great my husband says I look hot ..love it .. and alot of things are better ..

My hubby is excited for me to get the surgery because he wants a little one and he wants to create one naturally if you catch my drift so this surgery should help in that department also he wants me to be happy with my body and right now I am not

I believe if your marriage is strong and your both honest with each other you can survive everything . I have been married almost 25 years and my marriage was never in jeopardy . My log life is strong .

I think having the surgery two months ago has helped my marriage!! In so many ways! My husband is not over weight and has always been active (we used to be active together). I'm feeling more like my old self, the me before I couldn't lose the baby weight and gained even more. He always tells me, happy wife=happy life!