robin805

when IrishEyes are smilin'...........
At about 8 weeks i made my first salad - w/the spinich/green leaves - cut an egg up into quarters, some shredded cheese - yum yum, now I put a bunch of weighed out teeny pieces of chicken in the salad for Protein, a couple of walnuts too - i use the no calorie vigignorette dressing (OMG, really spelled that wrong!)
i had a Wendy's salad a couple of times - and my salad is basically an imitation of a good thing
The lettuce makes me full pretty soon, and with all the other stuff, i usually eat 1/2 what i make, the other 1/2 as dinner - can never judge properly to make the correct size.
guess thats why i measure my quantities all the time (well..there can be exceptions) cuz i'm not good at guesstimating, if i don't measure - it doesn't really kill me, cuz i "usually" know when to stop
When they took the 85% of my stomach out, they put a 1/3 measuring cup in my new sleeve

You deserve all the happiness in the world. 90lbs is nothing to sneeze at.
I was sleeved 5 days after you and have lost 66lbs so you saying your 90 isn't very good is kind of insulting... just another perspective.
Be proud of your accomplishments... no shame in that

Sandra_Baby87
are you kidding me?
thats totally terrific
congrats - keep up the great work
i'm sure you are feeling healthier, happier and all that good stuff
later

Thanks you guys. I think control issues are the deep root of the problem. He is just so scared of losing me now that I have lost the weight. Crazy because he is fit and has never had any issue with weight.
I know this is really my problem and I choose to change my life once and I can do it again. I think the working out instead of eating is a great idea. Just thinking before I put it in my mouth will help. I will be more conscience of what (healthy vs. bad, bad, bad) I put in my mouth.
Thank you again and please keep them coming.

I feel you!!! I'm so there!!! This week I'm doing Diva's boot camp and I'm planning my meals, super hydrating and journaling to find my triggers.. I'm also making an appointment to see my therapist... I'm 8 months out and not losing like I should.. Granted, I am a slow loser, however I know I'm not working my sleeve like I should..
As far as negative comments, sometimes it's good to take a step back from a public forum and surround yourself with your core people who are supportive, but honest!!

The emotional rollercoaster does have a way off. It's difficult because the easy thing to do is to kick your boyfriend to the curb. I have to be honest. I have never understood why anyone would stay with someone who is just convinced that they will be cheated on. It sounds like his desire is to control you. You've obviously got some diffcult decisions to make. I truly wish that I had some motivational stuff to say to you. Just something to get you over the hump, but sadly, I don't. I'm trying to find a way to help my wife who has gained some weight back and just know that she needs my support. Keep looking forward. You know what needs to happen food-wise. You can make it happen.

How long have you been grazing? Is it just since he's gotten home? Or did you start if/when things changed in your relationship?
I am a grazer, especially whenever I am stressed. It's really easy to let it go and get out of hand so kudos to you for coming back when you feel like it's "out of control" at only 10 lbs.
To me, it sounds like much more is going on in your life and I suggest telling him what kind of stress this has put you under. If he doesn't listen, or if you can't talk rationally... I highly suggest counseling. For you separately (for food issues) and for you and your boyfriend (for couples counseling). You mentioned that he quit his job because he's scared you'll cheat on him. You guys have much more going on that what we can help you with here I assume. That emotional thing with food, I have it too. It's a truly hard thing, I am in no way "cured" but I think talking to someone about it can help. Especially whenever it comes to your bf leaving his job and putting you under 30k less income - that's a lot of stress.
In the interim, make sure that you only have "good" Snacks - make a list of what you can graze on and stick to it so that you are remaining at your 1300 calories a day (i.e. carrots, celery, sf Jello, 100 cal snack packs in moderation, etc). I use my fitness pal to track my intake. I'm no where perfect but I'm honest with what goes in my mouth. That might help you as well - tracking it and seeing where you are doing and when you are doing what you are doing (how you are feeling when it's happening). It's made me see it.
Are you working out in any way? I just ask because do that whenever you find you are grazing. And ask yourself "am i physically hungry or just wanting to eat"? If you are physically hungry, ok. If not, go for a walk! Do anything else.
Sorry IDK that I had much for you on answers.... but I hope my post helps. Best of luck and kudos to you for trying to address this now, before it gets out of hand.

Ughhhh.... Relationships can be so stressful. First as women I know we can tend to bare the brunt or responsibility and stress, without even being told. So I'd say don't automatically assume any additional stresses. Because your bf took a big paycut don't pick up any additional financial responsibilities. Trust me I've done this with my husband and it just gets worse. This is one reason me my husband have separate finances. I can easily graze all day if I allow myself. Maybe you can up your exercise to supplement your extra calorie intake? Or find some other activity to occupy your mind. However I feel the best option for you is to be honest let your bf know that his insecurities are really stressing you out and potentially ruining the relationship. This is something you should be very vocal about, don't do it durning a heated (argument) moment. I've noticed that a lot of time I expected my husband to know how i felt or why I was mad, this is unfair on my part. So I now am very detailed with my husband I tell him what bothers me, why it bothers me, and what I think can be done to aliviate my frustrations. Best of luck to you!!!

I have been there for many years, I think that is why I ended up needing the sleeve to start with its way to easy to say leave him, so i won't bother, I am still with mine too. I am only a month out post -op too but i do know I could eat ALOt more than I do and I still find myself wanting to comfort with food.. but I did change the law in my home and kitchen and I don't ever plan on breaking it. Buy yourself healthy snacking options .. you know your gonna graze and snack so do NOT buy the things you used to use like lays and ice cream or brownies or what ever. I have several bags of bean chips.. high Protein chips , they are pretty yummy.. I am basicly living on cottage cheese. I feel for you hunny and all I can say is if it isnt there you cant eat it.. and prepare for those moments while your shopping maybe?
much love sister good luck

Wow!! I just wanted to take a moment now that I'm officially on the losers bench to share my experience with Dr Aceves and his staff.... Wonderful is the only word I can find!! The entire experience felt like going to a spa!!
From beginning to end it was quick efficient and organized. From emails and phone calls with the coordinator Nina to the driver Ramon!
I was always escorted everywhere ... Anything my friend that went with me needed was seen to... Like she wanted her teeth cleaned... Yolanda... Ninas mom set it up!! The doctors come in three times a day! The housekeepers clean constantly and clean your room three times a day!
Almater hospital is a small efficient private clean hospital filled with really nice nurses and every staff that even passed me in the hallways always smiled and greeted me warmly!
I have been in USA hospitals as a nurse for 32 yrs and know good care.... This was a fabulous experience!
I highly recommend Dr Aceves !
The lucerna hotel we stayed at the night before surgery was so beautiful! And excellent service!

Women are like tea bags, you never know how strong they are until they are in hot water....Eleanor Roosevelt

Women are like tea bags, you never know how strong they are until they are in hot water....Eleanor Roosevelt

I would like to add one from my dear, beloved, departed granny: "Shyt or get off the pot"! Gotta love the older peeps..always giving little golden nuggets of wisdom! LoL

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WE must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us...
.. ............................Joseph Campbell...........