I know exactly how you feel. The only one who knows I got a band is my husband. I haven't even told my parents, who I am very close to and see a couple of times a week. I lied to them and told them I was sick the week after the surgery, so they didn't wonder why I wasn't coming around while I was healing.
My mom is a real gossip. When I found out I was pregant 3 years ago, I called her to let her know and asked her not to tell ANYONE else. About 3 minutes later, I got a call from my sister, who reamed me out for not calling her, too. By nightfall, everyone and their dog knew I was pregnant.
I just don't want that to happen again. I don't want everyone to be reminded that I am overweight and even need the lap band.