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Potatos don't stay down well when the band is tight. At least not for me..........i seriously haven't had them since surgery until I made them. But as you could see they stayed down just fine!!

I think that is the first time I have had potatoes since surgery............I just don't eat them anymore!! Back on track today, back on track!!

sorry about the potatoes all!! But as you noticed I didn't bring them home cause I knew I would eat them if I did.......I already tasted to much when I made them..............next time we get together I won't make potatoes. I thought I might need a slider but apparently I am just fine now with the protiens again, even ate a piece of broccoli on Saturday and toast yesterday..........:-P As I recall the PB'ing didn't start until I hit 5cc's so I have some wiggle room right now!! Just trying not to play around with my new found freedom!! But again sorry about the potatoes just call me the sabatoger!! :-P Sabatoge-Tina is your name!! Sorry girls!! :-P

Morning all Headed out for a long day. MIght be easier to stay on track today since I won't be home all day I will be at court and in the office. To easy to snack at home............. Woke up hungry today. Weird cause I am used to not feeling like eating anything until noon or after...........eggs and veggie sausages this morning I am gonna count how long that lasts........it is weird cause with the heavy protiens I can feel them slow down going through the band just not really stopping to stay awhile. 18 days until my next fill...........LOL!! Dr. Baggs said the goal is NOT to gain anything while the swelling goes down!! Ah my goal is to actually lose something as well..........go figure!! I sorta want to prove it can be done being stubborn and all!! Up two pounds this morning but the Aunt is still hear for her visit hoping to get her packed and leaving this week. Than I should drop that weight real quick!!

Oh NIcole no charge!! LOL. I write what I need to hear sometimes too.............free therapy for all myself included!! I am a deep thinker sometimes .........but ok I do alot of therapy with people so I probably just think like one without meaning to.............usually it is stuff I need to hear myself too!! I am by no means have all the answers I am in the same boat as the rest of you............just maybe I have learned to therapize myself when I need to cause I have a hard time with therapy when I know what they are doing and what method they are using on me and what they want to get out of me...........sorta a distraction!! Doing therapy with another therapist is HARD work we are a stubborn lot...........the wounded healers they call us!!:-P But ok, ok. When I see something or hear something you ladies say that strikes me in one way or another I saw what comes to my mind and that is usually therapy related.......geez can't help myself I have been tainted by my profession never mind my personal life!! Nite ladies got to sleep early day tomorrow I have to be in court!! Heather you look HOT my friend!!

Candra someone already wrote my life "in Ruins"..........LOL. I will have to wait for another title and another burst of estrogen before I script a book................ Like someone told me I write to much and post to much on this forum!! Opps did I say that..........oh dear my hostile angry side sliding out unawares............****chanting don't say to much, go to your happy place......no not disneyland you won't come back. The OTHER (wink/wink)happy place!! " OMG I need to go I am way to silly tonight!! I need a break from myself. Now if I had my 1.5cc's back I would not be so ravashingly hungry tonight and would acting more human and civilized for sure. I think you all need to call Dr. Baggs and tell him I am a danger to myself and other's without proper restriction!! I need a lap band 5150!! LOL!! INTERVENTION NEEDED where is that darn needle!! LOL!! ...........nite all!! :-P

Riley you know when you don't care to settle down with a man is when they start to show up in your life............men seems to be attracted to a woman who isn't interested!! LOL. THey like the chase I think...........but darn it I don't intend to be hunted like some wild beast!! Just notice that when your not interest or when aren't looking something always lands in your lap.............not always something pretty though!! LOL. And Riley you have a bit of flirt in you!! I saw some of it yesterday. I bet you drive men wild with that and than not wanting them..............girl your a challenge!! Just wait!!! OMG your gonna have your own fan club to rival Dr. Bagg's!!

Candra your brother is Italian and good looking?? I might take him during your me year!! LOL. I love mediterrean men. Oh wait I said no men this year darn it..........God the greeks and Italians..........OMG. Can't handle blond and blue eyes.........prejudice agaisnt my own kind I guess.......... Riley same with me!! I am a huge flirt and love to have fun but no one in my bubble. I sometimes wonder if I will be able to change that after a year..........I think it is a mixed blessing ........I don't know if I would let my guard down or not with a guy............if not I might have more work to do than I thought........... Geez I had two losers in my house and I had being controlled by men...........I LOVE my own house and life and coming and going as I please.............I am jaded!! I kicked both men out of my life. One I left the other I put literral on the street at midnight, even put his two cats out and I love animals.................he said to much and when I am done, I am done..............I walk away ............we have never talked since!! ****bad temper Tina, bad, bad temper.....smiling a devilish grin!!" I did just finish anger managment though cause I have been in my not taking &*(#$ mode since July. A bit worse than usual...............told Robin and she said normal after surgery to go through this phase..............she said your taking your life back and tired of being walked on......I thought she is so right made me think about things and ya know I love anyone that makes me think, really think..........again loved my talk with Robin last week.........I like one on one with her once in awhile............she really does understand some stuff...........made me feel more normal about where I am at........... My estrogen is going wild right now I am contemplating life way to much I gotta go watch some SMUT on tv or read a mindless magazine!!! Night ladies.......

For me walking away from two relationships is when I learned all about outgrowing people and that when you improve and change yourself you sometimes lose people close to you in the process.................this time not so much but my divorce and than I was engaged four years ago and I broke that off...........OMG that taught me so much about life and outgrowing people and changes..... Here is the thing you can love someone with all your heart and they can still not be the right person for you......... To me if someone really loves you they will let you go if that is what it takes to let you grow and become a better person........if someone tries to hold you back for their benefit well what does that really say?? And sometimes you have to realize trying to change someone or drag them alone with you on YOUR journey is not respecting them either. Leaving people behind is also an act of courage and accepting you have no control over them and it arrogant to think you do is a hard lesson to learn. *****ok, ok I fess up I learned this the hard way too*** My new theory is live and let live.........simple as that. And "it is what it is..........nothing more and nothing less" Hard for me to learn that stuff....... I am just so attracted to people that help me grow and learn more about myself............I like to be around people who make me strive to be better, to be stronger and to grow more emotionally and spiritually...........and now health wise too............just so darn exciting to be around those people...........you age and learn I guess. I have gotten good at walking away from the negetive........except for my own negetive but darn it where can I go to hide from myself.........or my darn overactive brain!! :-P But that is only some days when the estrogen kicks in..........again thank you Dr. Baggs for revving up that engine again. No wonder they worry so much about people getting pregnant................i could sell some estrogen and still have to much!! Alot of this I have learned from the school of hard knocks!! I have to learn everything by butting my head against walls so have been "through it"...............but also from all the people I have helped over the years get sober and leave abusive men ect...............I almost hate to say it but my clients have educated me and helped me grow more than I have helped them.............I have learned alot about human behavior.......and of one thing I am convinced people don't often change..........and when they do it is miraculous and nothing less...........that is why I am so happy being part of a group of people in the 10th percentile........or maybe Liz would say 20th (20 percent make it to surgery!!) ONe of my favorite sayings is "people will wade through hell with only a faint glimmer of hope to drive them forward" I think we can all sorta relate to that!! I know I can

Yea good going Tamra...........you'll be fine!! I am also a loner. Total loner exept for the last few months. I don't know what has come over me!! I still like my independence and can be bossy and...............shhh......I have some control issues..............but I am out and about alot more lately. Did I give up friends. Not really cause I didn't have anyone really close to me. I did decide no dating at all until I have year to myself and and to focus on just me.........finding loser mean is my speciality ya know!! But I did tell my male friends (2 guys I know from college) I had no intention of dating or being serious with anyone this is entirely a me year. I didn't tell them about the surgery but they sorta gave me a hard time..........like maybe it is a cope out cause your scared to date sorta thing........well hell ya I have meet some real loser guys so why bring all that chaos into my life on a ME year........well hell it might be a ME two years..........November is coming sooner than I thought......... Geesh November 8, 2008 I decided to get the band and started the process.......never guess ˆwould at this spot and almost 50 pounds down 9 months later.......

I can't wait Riley.............I can't wait!! But so much easier to eat my protiens again. That last week no protiens at one except for half a protien shake on Tuesday..........I did my calorie count today!! I so missed my lentils and veggie meats. They weren't going down after the last fill so I gave them up........I didn't realize that until the last few days. I really missed my comfort foods!!! Happy to have them back but worried I am so, so hungry today.............making up for last week?? I don't know so hungry today.......... 100 I will aim for!! I need to up my exercise game alot!!

I don't like her one bit!! But i also might like to bite her......LOL!! I think I will be there Pam!! I am gonna try. I have something next weekend but gonna try to go to the group since I don't get to see my girls for the fill this week.......I need a check in since my next fill is alone and our next support meeting is not until late september...........

Tamra the social worker in me has to say one thing that might piss you off..........this girl is NO WAY your friend....sounds like your getting used and have been for a long time..............I don't like her one bite......... My prediction you will be done with her before you even get banded. Your outgrowing her already................ *****hiding in a corner hoping not to get a swift kick from Tamra***** :-0

Ok ladies I ate three small pieces of pizza........not feeling bad about it yet but let me count the calories. I was at 600 today before that...........ah everything is going down just fine thank you!!! and I am back to thinking about food again.........darn it, darn it, darn it............ I think I need peace and serenity and a 12 step group...... cause I am having a hard time accepting 2cc's of help from Dr. Baggs!!! I wanted to accept only .5cc's of help!! Can you ask for help and than tell someone how much help to give ya?? I did try to argue it a bit and he laughed but didn't budge!! ****God grant me the power to change the things I can, the courage to accept the things I cannot change and the wisdom to the difference between the two--chanting to myself rather loudly*******Maybe I still have some control issues??? Riley I miss my sweet spot.........i was fine with 2 meals a day and not thinking about food at all. (except for the fact I worried I was not eating enough!) Had to remind myself to eat........granted a PB or two a day........don't miss that but do miss the not being hungry and not obsessing about food all day........

Riley NOT 50 miles in one week!!! LMAO!! I meant by Halloween...........oh Riley you are killing me here?? Should I aim higher??? :-P An Riley I went though 6 years of college and grad school to learn to be nice and to say things in a way that can "reach people's ears" LOL. But for me personally I like and respond best to your approach!!! LOL. That is why MY EAR can hear............tough love!! Tamra I will say one more thing than leave you alone. This is the second time you have let someone else affect your eating habits in a short period of time (your boss last week?)..........you need to think about this and deal with it or the lap band won't work for you...........but here is the secret your already stronger for just making the decision to go forward.......and your being open and honest about your "stuff" by posting...........your reaching out. All signs of strength and growth..........Girl your on a roll!!! Just think the more weight you lose the more of a fight the people around you will put up........when they realize your strong and won't change for them.........they will change with your or drift away.......most likely drift away but I have had a few people stick it out with me.......

Tamra girl!! I think you should get some counseling or come to some of our support groups.............you need to a change to process all this, all the changes..........this is an intense process and no shame in getting all the help you can!! There is nothing EASY about lap band surgery!! This has been the hardest, scariest, most overwhelming at time decision I have made..........and yet this is by far my greatest accomplishment besides my daughter..........but I am going to counseling myself off and on .........and I took an anger management class recently..........trying to cover all my bases..........but this is HARD stuff............right ladies?? Biggest thing I have learned so far is to ask for help and to not be to proud to accept it...............and to be open and honest about my life............even the hard stuff that is easier to hide sometimes.............cause we want other people to still think the "best of us".............. Thank you Dr. Baggs and Robin for teaching me to accept help again this week and to learn when to say give and trust someone else to help and make decisions for me, even when I stubbornly stick to the idea that I can solve things by myself and don't need to ask for help............still learning this stuff myself!! GEtting better at it though.......... Heavy people usually are the helpers for everyone else. WE feel guilty or think we don't deserve to ask for help for ourselves...............Thanks Donna for helping me figure this one out this week!! Donna is a true teacher!!! Love that lady!!! :-)

Tamra It is hard for people around you to accept change. When you change they either have to change to fit into your world or you outgrow them.....when you change your life it changes the lifes of people around you whether they like it or not. It is scary for your friends to think about how your gonna change and outgrow them or that they will have to change to keep up with your pace.............. She is trying to pull you down to stop your changing because that meets her needs and makes her world better for her. She is trying to even the status quo...........if you don't change her life stays the same..........this is all about the other person and has nothing to do with you. ONce you get that than you won't let other people get to you so much.......they will lose their power over you!! Just painful to outgrow people and say goodbye. I know, I know........hard not to take a second and sometimes even third and fourth glance back to see what they are doing? To make sure they really are gonna let you walk out of their lives....to see they aren't willing to go on the same path or journey that your on. What is really hard is when those people we outgrow are our families particularly our spouse..............but check the statistics it happens. I don't have the same friends, attitude or mind set I had 9 months ago when I started this journey. You can't have this surgery and go through this process without growing and changing impossible....... Part of the learning curve with this surgery and you WILL GET stronger!! I have seen the girls I started this journey with in November totally grow and change into different people in just 9 months........I see the new people who joine back in the Spring making huge changes. So get ready Tamra you in for the ride now...............just go with the process your gonna come out of this a much stronger and more confident woman!! Make sense?? That is why so much divorce and change of friends and jealous unsupportive family with this kind of surgery......... anyone know about systems and family theories??? LOL. Micro, mezo and Macro systems...........Social work stuff for sure!! But here is the thing............if one person in a system (family friendships ect.) changes than the whole system HAS TO CHANGE or it will fall apart................one person can't change in a group without the group and all individuals in the group adjusting and changing......more times than not the group simple falls apart as one group member ourgrows the system.............and the person growing finds a new group or system that better fits their needs and that grows with them.......... Thus our support group...............we are the new system for alot of us........ Ok, ok enough social worker theories. This is not grad school!! LOL. :-P Tamra this is normal get used to it and as you get stronger and stronger you will be able to walk away from it and remind yourself that your outgrowing your old support system............might be time to spend more time with other people that are growing with you and support you new goals in life..............

Candra if you still have almost a month until surgery.......girl you could do 20 or really close to........easy

Next summer for sure you will be at goal. Probably way before........ I am gonna aim for 180 or 27 more down. Than I will probably go down to 150 as my second goal.........waiting to see what 180 feels like.......... 29BMI is 180 25BMI is 150 Candra I know we lose about the same so that is why I told ya.......I was discouraged but Dr. Baggs was like expect 1-2 pounds per week so I am right on the chart........

Oh I gained five pounds after surgery but that fell off and 8 more within two days................. My weight loss is slow.......I average about a pound a week or a bit more since surgery.........16 weeks, 20 pounds!! Don't feel like doing the math though...........LOL!!

For sure I want to be in Onederland by than...........I would like to be 195?? well lower actually.........ok thinking...... I also would like to set a goal like in the next six weeks or so I will walk 50 miles..........does that sound doable. Ok I will come up with some stuff than post it up............

Well I only lost 12 pounds after surgery!! Than hit bandster hell big time............I lost 12 in the first 2-3 weeks than hit a plateau big time.........went up and down five for awhile......than settled in at 12.............. Most of them did better than me candra but just so you know you don't automatically lose that much post op!! That is also before your first fill so some of that time you spend in bandster hell!! Not trying to discourage ya just telling what happened to me. That said I want to set a goal for Halloween. Thinking about what that will be.........

LOL!!! I finally conquered my band!! The band growled at me this week to loud and with Dr. Baggs help I made the his biting attitude stop!!! But ok I wish he would snarl a bit today.............I mean even a growl would be nice. I am not sure I still have my band.....

Love Ruby new one tonight ladies!! Candra I am in between sizes too now. That is why I have baggy stuff cause one size smaller is to tight still. ALmost works but not quite............. Pam I ate a cup of lentils today with no problem. Still a bit hungry after but I stopped...........just chilling trying to either lose or maintain at least till I get a fill..... Jes and Candra this time next month you be banded!! Both of you!! Well Aunt Flo has arrived with a venegance today. I haven't been this cramped up and headachy since I was in high school.......can we say hormones going crazy today. I still think that my band going into a death grip this week was hormone and monthly related...........ok and maybe some stress over layoffs. I talked to some poeple online who had unfills and they said stress did it for them........and if you mix in little ms. Flow it is a killer combo!! mourning my 2cc's.........ok, ok..........morning only 1.5 of my fill actually!! :-P

Oh yea I used the Wild Tree Pesto oil to saute the veggies for the Special K loaf so there might be a touch of Pesto in the recipe too.............also used a baking brush and painted the pesto grapeseed oil over the top of the Special K stuff before I baked it............and than I put in some Italian seasoning..... LOL. When I cook I don't always use the recipe exactly!! I sorta let it GUIDE me.............LOL I used to be the head cook for a retirement center when I was in college. From what the seniors told me I was a bit to liberal with my spices!! LOL!! :-P They were a bit to liberal with their champagne so I figured we were even.