Melody Andrews

Here’s a good rule of thumb and you’re right on or maybe even at high end of expected weight loss.

You ask if you should divorce him. Only you know that for certain. The relationship sounds toxic. The behaviors you describe are abusive, manipulative, and controlling. If you’re like me, dealing with those behaviors which fostered low self esteem for me, we’re partly why I needed WLS. I tried to hold my marriage together, but only one engaged partner can’t make that happen. My last straw was his refusal to participate in a marriage retreat weekend while attending. I realized the marriage was over! It was extremely hard at first. But, I’m now married to the best guy on earth. He has loved me fat, loved me fatter, supported my decision to have WLS, and is my biggest cheerleader. He calls me eye candy and considers me his “trophy wife!” If we weren’t in a pandemic, I’d drive to MN and be your home care pal.

2/13/19. Ive lost 155# now.

RNY 2/13/19, 5’8” HW: 339. BMI 52. Size 32W SW: 305. 46. 28W CW: 183 28. 14-16 GW: 185. 28