3bee

Thanks so much for your responses and kind words. It is really helpful to hear your first hand experiences!
It's reassuring to hear malabsorption issues are not so common with the sleeve and that whilst post operation depression is common it usually passes fairly quickly.
We also spoke in depth tonight with our friend who had the sleeve operation in March, and this has helped a lot too.
My wife has a consultation with a surgeon from Healthier Weight tomorrow. I think we are very close to deciding the Sleeve is the right thing to do but we'll also see a psychiatrist and make sure my wife and I are prepared as best we can be for this major change.