pattyfromny

I am very sorry to hear you are having such a hard time. I can understand your concerns because I have a friend whose husband is sortof like yours. His problem is that he doesn't understand and doesn't know how to say just that so stupid stuff comes out. I can also feel your pain cause I started my process with a friend who was all gung ho about doing this together and as time progressed and I got farther along and evenually had my surgery (5/6) and she didn't, now the support from her and the lift me up is slowlyfading away. Now she might not even go for it for herself. I guess in all my rambling I really want to say that you need to keep your chin up and keep faith in yourself. Don't give up on you. We all need to look deep within and find happyness in ourselves. I really figured that out on my own while talking to my husband about the surgery. I had asked him how he felt and he said he loved me for me and I felt how could he still be atracted to me now 130 heavier than when he married me. See in my case my health caused me to be overweight and I allowed it. But in the long run it really was all about me being happy with me. Please don't give up.