TheWomanWithin

Ok I need some :help: Alittle background - my oldest daughter Amber is 19 (there's another post about her in lap band deaths) she has seen me struggle with my weight since she was little. I have never said anything about my weight in front of her so I didn't give her the wrong impression in hopes she would not yo-yo or be obsessive about her weight. She has seen me exercise, diet and take Vitamins - diet pills and vitamins but I call them vitamins Ive always made meals planned around healthy eating and even if my children have not liked something - they have a small portion of it on their plates. Last year my oldest son (20) and daughter 19 moved out with their friends in an apartment. There was some things that went on that made them all have to move - so they moved back in our house in March 2006 until they can save again to move out YEA! lol j/k This is the problem I need help with is this - when Amber moved out, she was around 150 pounds @ 5'8". When she came for Thanksgiving, she had lost 10-12 lbs, at Christmas about 20 lbs. Since moving back in, she has gone down to 125 pounds!!!!! I watch her like a hawk; YES Im a pain in the butt mother, but I care about my children no matter what their age is ~~ that's my job :success1: Would smoking pot or cigarettes do this? Drugs....eating disorder or something else Im missing? Binge/purge disorder...laxatives? I know it's not anorexia (which I suffered from at 17) I watch how much she eats and make sure she eats twice day. Any clues what to watch for if it is drugs or an eating disorder? She does not believe she is too thin and thinks her arms are fat - they are only 1.5 in larger than our 5 year old! This is her yesterday - I told her I wanted to take pictures and show her how much weight she had lost.

I didn't realize just how much of a difference losing only 29 pounds could make, until I saw pictures side by side. Now the tough part - the other 100 pounds I have only had 1 or 2 pictures taken in then past 3 years, one is below labeled Jan 2006. I'm starting to get a shape back, rather than just being a blob!:success1: I have been trying on clothes that I haven't worn in 3+ years. The pants in the Jan 2006 picture are a 24W and shirt 22/24W. The shirt in the May 15, 2006 picture is a size 20/22 and was just way too big, I guess I shoud have pinned it at the back for pictures hehehe. I didn't have anything else nice to wear with my pants - St. John's Bay size 20! :wow2: I can finally see a difference in my neck OMGOSH I have a neck again and getting rid of tom turkey~ Picture 1) 289 ~ Jan 2006.......Picture 2) 274.5 ~ March 2006.......3) 260 ~ April 2006.......Picture 4) 260 ~ May 2006

WOOOHOO Grats Teresa - wowwowwow 5 miles total on Sunday:clap2: Oooo trying on clothes my all time hated thing (I finally did it too) I painted and redid the two little ones rooms this weekend so I did NOTHING! ugh Im so bad. But now I can't walk %$@@* I messed my pelvis up climbing up and down the ladder - so I have to lay down or sit with my feet up to relax it so I can go to Disney this wkd. Have fun in Orlando Kee we will be there too if I can walk by then hehehe

ahhh thanks for the update - glad it wasn't due to something the dr did or from the band not sure, but do the pre-op tests show defects like heart valve problems? Im struggling to remember what ones you get - and each dr is so different with things.

Thanks Fee - I think we all might seem a bit skeptical when someone "knows" of someone who has died from this procedure since the death rates are very low. (see my previous posts on this) As with the woman where my daughter works, I am very interested in what happend.

Puddin - Are you going to Disneyland or Disneyworld? We live in FL and go to Disneyworld every month with yearly passes we have. Next week we will be at MGM alot - we go to the annual Star Wars Weekend. Not sure where we are going the other 2 days - you going to the Magic Kingdom?

WOW Alison, that is great - 44 lbs in what amount of time? See if a person say 200 lbs lost the 29 lbs I have lost, people would say WOW you have lost weight haven't you? The 29 lbs on me is noticeable BUT not like it would be on someone smaller. If I had lost 50 lbs by now, someone might really really notice - so I think the more you have to lose, the more it takes for others to notice. I have not exercised in 3 years or so, when I started I thought, heck Ill do this just to feel better and see if it helps - that has shown a major change in clothing even though I lost more weight (probably water) before I started exercising. Now I feel miserable when I dont exercise:p Someone had a thread on fat vs muscle and you could see the muscle took so much less room than the fat - so you might weigh more or lose slower but exercise is a great tool also.

This was from Extra TV: Chris Daughtry Gets 'Idol' Boot and Offer of a Lifetime http://extratv.warnerbros.com/v2/news/0506/11/1/text.html One of those opportunities, in fact, may have already come along. Members of the band Fuel appeared on Thursday's edition of Extra and told correspondent Terri Seymour ("Idol" judge Simon Cowell's girlfriend) they'd love to have Daughtry as their new singer.

:bump2: :bump: Any news if there is a new code for adjustments?

SleepyJean; I haven't lost gobs of weight, only 29 lbs (unbanded) but I can tell a big difference so far. I have lost almost 3 full pants sizes and have gone from a 44DD to a 40DD. Size 10 panties were almost too tight now I can wear 9 bikinis and they are too big - the size 8 I will be in about 5 pounds. From Jan - March I watched what I was eating then decided to go ahead with plans to be banded - I changed my eating habits and started exercising. Try and keep measurements and take weekly/bi-weekly pictures. You will start to see the changes little by little :confused: Can't wait to join bandland :cheer:

I finally found this on www.lapband.com: Under lap band in the news Dan Cohen, Inamed's vice president of global corporate and government affairs, says the mortality rate for Lap-Band procedures is now less than five-hundredths of a percent--comparable to the risk of dying from a hernia operation. ASBS estimates one in every 200 patients dies from gastric-bypass surgery. Though that includes patients who suffered from other health problems before the operation, "when you are counseling people about this kind of surgery, it is hard to hear that number," says Whyte, the pediatric surgeon. "Gastric bypass is a bigger surgery with potentially more hazardous complications, and the patient has to live with that surgery for a long time."

OMGOSH how did I miss that Chris had a contract already? I read something on MSNBC about putting him in an established group that had a "one name band", but it didnt hit me that it might be FUEL. I thought Creed or something like that - hmmm wonder how quick we can pre-order the new cd's? I went to order his one and it was sold out yesterday :confused: btw...Dody - you have great taste :confused: hehehe

Ooo that's a good idea taking her with me to my new appt. I let her go with me to my OB appts when she was younger and I was very open about pregnancy and the facts of life - so maybe that will help her now to go with me. I really wish there was an easy answer - BUT as we all know, there are no guarantees in life - live, love and laugh for today :confused: I also told her to come here and read some - to show her how many people there were on here and how many people are doing great.

Oh Dody that is such wonderful news! Glad they will go ahead and get it done :confused:

Letha, I totally agree and that was a part of the conversation today. I said I want you to know I am miserable and not healthy at being 100 lbs overweight so I need something to help me lose and maintain weight. I went over again about the surgery. She looked at me when I was done and said Mom there is no way you need to lose 100 pounds. I cried :think and said actually when I started I needed to lose 125 pounds, hugged her and she went off to brunch with her b/f lol So either I am backing up what I originally told her with facts from the MFG and doctors, patients etc or she is just going to push it to the back of her mind and forget about it. Is it June yet? lol thats my next appt with the dr and my new MSA plan so I can get a surgery date :confused:

Wow what a motivation to walk walk walk. Does this account for weight or just a general rule? can I pick where I want that 7% to come off of? hehehe :confused: Like you Mrs Sabre, I am not banded but on the "live like you are banded" tour as I like to call it. Im on my 4th attempt to be banded and one stumbling block after another came my way, so I took charge and am doing it alone until my next drs appt. I get alot of motivation from others here and would love to join - I need a kick every day just to remember what I'm striving for. I track everything through www.sparkpeople.com - counters, recipes and menus for all kinds of lifestyles.

Thanks everyone :confused: I asked my daughter if the woman knew what she was talking about? I did months and months of research and have folders of medical info from doctors and inamed about Lap-Band. I wanted her to talk to the woman who said this and get more info. Ask her specific questions like: who was the doctor, what facility, what DID they specifically die from, which surgery did she have RNY Or Lap Band, if they did die DURING the operation what complications, what happened after the surgery if they died after. I think this woman might have the wrong information on which procedure was done. Or she may not even know what the heck she is talking about - to know not 1 but 2 people to die from being banded is kind of fishy sounding to me. That might be a fault of mine - I tend to listen and then question everything a few times and research and need proof before believing anything. Being 19 she was scared and then a bit embarrassed because this older woman made such a huge deal of it. Now she doesn't want to talk to the woman about it again. I have had 3 major surgeries, had no problems whatsoever and took care of my 3 & 5 year olds within a day of surgery last year. I explained to my daughter that my other surgeries were far more complicated than this one would be. She has it in her head now from that conversation that something will go wrong. I figure if Im going to die, then so be it. I had sespis before and lived (thankfully) from it. I think she is thinking of back then when I was horribly sick and almost died. I just wanted to get some concrete info that she could read on the death rates - there are plenty of facts about complications - like 1% of all bands result in complications, but none about death due to being banded, so maybe there aren't enough to count? btw, where does [Lap Band surgery mortality rate.. 1 in 2500] come from? I am trying to find the mortality rate - inamed does not have that? can someone point me to a website or brochure? Thanks for all the help :confused:

:confused: sing zippty do dah - I'll bring back the video of my husband doing this lol he loves to embarass us like that:p

I was floored by something my oldest daughter said to me yesterday. She is 19 and has asked all kinds of questions about me getting banded. When I told her yesterday I had found another plan that will let me go to a new doctor and be banded she got this look on her face and I said what? She is scared to death for me to have surgery now! I was floored and asked her why? she said Connie at work was going to have the Lap Band done and another lady says DONT do it - she "knows" 2 people who had it done and died! I said WHAT - no way - she knows them personally? HOW is that possible? Are the facts straight when they tell the death rates and complications? I know that seems like a stupid question, and all deaths, complications I assume have to be reported. As with any surgery, there can be complications. I told her the gynecological surgery I had done last year I could have died and was a far more complicated one than this is. Plus I am considered healthy other than being obese and occassional sleep apnea. I went to Inamed but can't seem to find specific death rates from the surgery itself. It just says: Anyone have those facts or steer me in the right direction? I want to show her this information.

Are you going to :confused: me too if I don't walk more? heheheh [runs and hides] Im taking the week off! It's Stars Wars Weekend at MGM and we are going for 3 days (can't find the insert picture button grrr) so we will be walking for 3 days straight at Disney, does that count as extra :confused: ?

LOL Teresa I can't do more :faints: it's going to take me a year to work up to what you do at 3 miles. Home Depot rejected my application, they said I was overqualified :grin:

That has got to feel so good! great work :Banane13:

30 min @ 2.0-2.3 155 cals/1.06 mile - taking it easy today I need to :whip: up some motivation and get back in gear tomorrow. Wonder if Home Depot would mind if I helped them re-arrange their plants and stuff while we're there today - that can be some weight training right there!:Banane13:

This is funny, while I was reading Yoda's respone - WTVT Fox 13 news had a spot about Tanning being addictive! Im trying to find the article, but don't see it yet. It was a very interesting piece - maybe living in FL for so long Im addicted to the sun/tanning too lol

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