Jacquelinjf

I’ve had men come up to me in my office, interrupt what I’m doing, and just ask why I’m not smiling, and that I would look better if I would smile. Like why the hell would I be just sitting here smiling while I’m working on my computer? That would be f**king weird. And why would you say that to me? Would you tell a man the same thing? No, no you wouldn’t. I’m not a f**king trained chimp here for your entertainment or to make you feel better about yourself. Although if I were a chimp, I would at least have an excuse to fling poop at these people. That would be pretty awesome.

Although I read about other people in our lives not being supportive or downright jealous of us having our surgeries, it sure hurts when it happens to you. I'm especially surprised with how my co-workers are treating me. I'm a happy-go-lucky person who's always willing to lend a hand to people I care about & I am very tenderhearted as well so this is hitting me especially hard.
My co-workers are being rude when asked about covering my shifts while I'm off for surgery. I work at a little library with a small amount of staff and our jobs are really not that stressful so it's not like they are going to have to expend a whole bunch of energy or break a sweat working my shift. A group of co-workers even approached our director expressing "concern" that the surgery is too dangerous and that I shouldn't have it done which really baffled me since no one ever brought that up with me. Now I know that they just don't want to cover for me & are worried I'll be out longer that anticipated. I came in on Monday walking on a cloud because I finally got my surgery date & no one could be bothered to show any enthusiasm at all.
I have a co-worker who I've worked with for 5 years & I considered her to be one of my best friends. I've planned her work bridal shower and baby showers. I went to the hospital to see her first-born. She gripes constantly about her husband & I'm right there supporting her. We've done plenty of stuff together socially as well, so she's not just a work friend. In the past I've asked her for very small favors here & there and she's rarely helped me out but I asked so infrequently that it never really bothered me. I, of course, have helped her happily whenever she needed me. Well, her true colors are shining now that the surgery is approaching. I've been careful not to talk her ear off about the surgery because I can see that being super annoying. Whenever I bring it up now she just grunts in response and goes right back to talking about herself. I've asked her for two small favors in regards to the surgery and she's too inconvenienced to do either one. I am really, really hurt by her actions.
Another friend is acting jealous & responded to the news of my surgery with "I'll be interested to see how it goes for you". I haven't told friends on social media yet and now I'm definitely not going to. This will be a road I walk down with my husband on one side & my mom on the other cheering me on. I'll be just fine and I will succeed in spite of everyone's attitudes towards this huge step in my life. I'm really glad I found this community & I'm really glad you've read this far! Thanks for letting me vent!

Lord have mercy.... ever since my surgery my new name is skinny BITSHHHH at work.... at time it was funny...now im starting to feel uncomfortable these same coworkers we have been working together for 19 ...20yrs ...and when i buy cute dresses and show them my pic the respond i get bak is so BLAH.... im thankful for this journey and the big change i have made physically and mentally but jeeeshhh the hate is very awkward at time cuz i am still the same person only thing i look way different....... all my so called friends or people i just talk to are soooo different now i see it but pay no mind ... [emoji2358]
In need of new friends I could text away
This is my Before and After [emoji3059][emoji173][emoji119]
bless be our lord almighty to see this change [emoji173][emoji173][emoji173][emoji173]
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Hey New & Improved...did you realize that it's against forum rules to shame people for their choice of surgery? Now why don't you bugger off with your constant hot takes, lousy opinions, and egotistical attention seeking?