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I am sorry to say that while this surgery has helped many, it has ruined 5 lives. My ex got this surgery without realizing that he probably had an underlying psychiatric issue which he medicated with food. After the surgery he never was relieved of pain. In fact, he almost died, even though the surgery was done in Princeton, New Jersey by an expert. He became septic because of a fistula. He lived through that. For 6 weeks after the surgery I had to stuff gauze inside the wound and change it twice a day. A nurse came to our house to change his IV. That was the summer of 2007. The entire month of July. The pain lasted more than 8 years. This pain and the lack of joy he Had previously derived from food, led him to a dark place which he medicated with alcohol while doctors prescribed antidepressants. His family thought he would be okay because he continued to make money hand over fist by surviving each office work day and spending the evenings and weekends soaked in alcohol, Drugged by medicine to mask his physical and mental anguish, and sleep. He lost interest in our children who were all under 8. He lost the ability to perform sexually. He eventually lost his job. We moved and in one weekend he took so many ambien that it is miraculous that he is alive. We eventually divorced because he felt “maybe [he] would feel less like committing suicide if we were divorced”. But it was not so. He continued to behave and feel the same way. It was, in fact, worse. When the police intervened and got him to a hospital, it was found that he had a vitamin deficiency which caused damage in multiple organs. He is now recovered. He is in his right mind and has a job. But from 2007 to 2018, that was the life we lived. My children were without a present, healthy father from the time my son was 2 until he was 12. My daughter barely speaks to him because she blames him for turning to alcohol. She spent her life to 16 that way. The middle daughter understands, but likely does not realize how it has affected her. She knows nothing else. She was 4 when this started. I hate gastric bypass. If people are fat, it’s because of a mentally unhealthy relationship with food. The exceptions to this statement are FAR LESS than the number of people getting this surgery. But doctors like money.

James... my ex was so turned off by what happened In The initial surgery he lost his trust in doctors, though doctors were the ones who helped him so many years later. He did not do any of the things he was supposed to do. He did lose a bunch of weight though. He got down to 168 pounds at his lowest. But he was never the same. yes I joined 2 hours ago. I do want people to be aware. Do the surgery like James did it and not the way my ex did. I’m rebuilding. I have had therapy. So has my ex. His life is working out. I also stand — if transfer addiction is an issue, addiction to food needs to be clearly ruled out before surgery. This is my opinion. I was telling my story as a cautionary tale. I am still wondering if an issue with vitamin deficiency has been noted as causing organ damage (reversible) in post bariatric surgery patients. The people who said “if it’s even true, well..” whatever. I get it. This is the internet. I can take this post down. But I hope people really make sure they are not addicted to food when they get this surgery. That is a mind and not body issue. Again, my opinion. I read all the comments and appreciate the well thought out comments.

I’m rebuilding. I have had therapy. So has my ex. His life is working out. I also stand — if transfer addiction is an issue, addiction to food needs to be clearly ruled out before surgery. This is my opinion. I was telling my story as a cautionary tale. I am still wondering if an issue with vitamin deficiency has been noted as causing organ damage (reversible) in post bariatric surgery patients. The people who said “if it’s even true, well..” whatever. I get it. This is the internet. I can take this post down. But I hope people really make sure they are not addicted to food when they get this surgery. That is a mind and not body issue. Again, my opinion. I read all the comments and appreciate the well thought out comments.