Lainey H

I have a date since last week (Nov 30th) and everyday I question whether I should back out. I spent most of my adult life thinnish (130) but always on a diet and went up and down 10-15 lbs and felt that I understood the struggle. I felt different than my thin friends who would always leave food on their plate. And I found ways to get my sugar in so I have a bad relationship with food and def a stress eater. Once I had my kids at 38, I spent the next 9 years going between 170 and 247 (current weight.) I managed to loose 70 lbs 3 years ago with Weight Watchers and thought I had it all figured out. Even threw out my fat clothes. Then I spent the following year gaining it all back. I realize food is my addition and I don't understand how I couldn't keep it off and why I can't get back there. I'm becoming so anxious about it now that it seems real. I'm not sure if I should be excited but I'm scared of long-term issues with gastric sleeve surgery. I feel good about committing to the plan and loosing weight but I'm so nervous about so many other issues that might come up. Partly because I have been reading people's experiences on the boards. My fear is going through all the pain, recovery and learning to eat in a new way and trading in my success with weight loss for another set of problems like nausea, constipation, hunger and not eating much but still gaining, etc. And of course there is also the unknown. What type of consequences will I experience 10-20 years out from vitamin deficiency and any unknown issues that will occur based on this irreversible surgery. Ugh I'm struggling here... I will say there are many positive posts so I'm trying to sift through the large amount of information here. I'm already a bit resentful that I won't be able to eat like my family or drink a nice glass a wine with my dinner but it would kill me to feel awful on top of that. Something about this surgery feels wrong and yet I'm fighting to start my 50s in good health. I have 2 kids and a husband and want to be healthy and live long enough to be around. I'm willing to do the work and change my ways. I know it will be good for me. Thanks for any words of wisdom. I appreciate having a place to come for information.

So I have a date (Nov 30th) although still going through insurance approval. I'm becoming so anxious about it now that it seems real. I'm not sure if I should be excited but I'm scared of long-term issues with gastric sleeve surgery. I feel good about committing to the plan and loosing weight but I'm so nervous about so many other issues that might come up. Partly because I have been reading people's experiences on the boards. My fear is going through all the pain, recovery and learning to eat in a new way and trading in my success with weight loss for another set of problems. Here are some of the items written by people who are out 2-3 years. They are scaring me: -nausea 2-3 yrs out -not being able to leave house because need to be near bathroom -gallstone issues and heartburn -feeling just as hungry but not being able to eat as much and still gaining weight -constipation -I even read a thread about loosing teeth. Jeez, I didn't put that on my list of questions for either the surgeon or dentist And of course there is also the unknown. What type of consequences will I experience 10-20 years out from vitamin deficiency and any unknown issues that will occur based on this irreversible surgery. Ugh I'm struggling here... I will say there are many positive posts so I'm trying to sift through the large amount of information here. I spent most of my adult life thinnish (130) but always on a diet and went up and down 10-15 lbs. Always finding ways to get my sugar in so I have a bad relationship with food and def a stress eater. Once I had my kids at 38, I spent the next 9 years going between 170 and 247 (current weight.) I managed to loose 70 lbs 3 years ago with Weight Watchers and thought I had it all figured out. Even threw out my fat clothes. Then I spent the following year gaining it all back. I realize food is my addition and I don't understand how I couldn't keep it off and why I can't get back there. I was really intrigued by this surgery because of the research on resetting and shutting down hunger hormones but I know it's not a quick fix and I'm so worried it won't work for me. That thread on the person who was always hungry and barely ate anything but still gaining really got to me. And the nausea... I know the numbers on weight loss and stats on reflux, gerd, leaks etc but having a hard time finding any good sources for success 3-5 years out on how patients feel overall and how eating low amount of calories and vitamin issues could affect long-term health. I'm already a bit resentful that I won't be able to eat like my family or drink a nice glass a wine with my dinner but it would kill me to feel awful on top of that. Something about this surgery feels wrong and yet I'm fighting to start my 50s in good health. I have 2 kids and a husband and want to be healthy and live long enough to be around. I'm willing to do the work and change my ways. I know it will be good for me. Thanks for any words of wisdom.

Thanks Danny!! Good idea. Time to go shopping and get ready.

Yes sitting. That's good to hear. Food will be hard but there will never be a good time to stay away from food... Thanksgiving will have to be my last holiday meal pre op. Thanks!!

I'm curious when most people felt well enough to go to a show? I'm trying to plan for my surgery in late nov and between holidays and kids' events I'm really struggling. Do you think I will be able to sit through my daughter's ballet recital 7 days out? Maybe 10 days out? Will o be miserable on xmas if it's 10days post op. I do have young children so want to enjoy it with them. TIA