I had the same feed back, almost as if being able to lead a normal life makes you not fat enough. But 6 meetings later, and seeing the many shapes and sizes on the same road, I had a reality check. I went to complete the pre op tests and I went from heavy my whole life without issues to finding out I did in fact have significant sleep apnea and high cholesterol. Although not major nor restrictive to my day to day activity, I have to wonder how many more failed diets or lose to gain roller coasters would I ride before something really bad happened to my health. I just got to a point I admitted I have never had clear control of my weight and I want to put an end to that lack of control and confidence.