mikeyandmary

I had my sleeve surgery last December and was very private pre-surgery. I only told my wife, my boss, my minister and 1 close friend. For me it was mostly the anxiety of failing another attempt at weight loss. Post-surgery I decided I didn't want to be pushy or make a big deal so I let people decide how much they wanted to know. Lots of people (friends and work colleagues) noticed the weight loss or that my eating habits had significantly changed and a few made comments or asked questions. Most just said "you've lost weight / you look great". My initial response is thanks. If they ask how I did it I say I asked my doctor for help. If they ask for more detail I tell them I had surgery just before Christmas. I did have an awkward moment when a friend said to me that maybe I should suggest the surgery to mutual friend who was overweight. I felt so awkward and said I'd hate for someone to say that about me. I've been really blessed because my boss has been a great support (very unobtrusive and accommodated several appointments) and I'm yet to have someone make a negative comment when they find out I had the surgery. Don't feel that you have to say anything but hopefully, if you do decide to share your journey, the people you tell are caring enough to build you up rather than put you down.