hatemyreflection

Hello- I am new. I need to hear from those who have done this. I am in the pre-op stage -waiting insurance VSG approval. I have a BMI 35 and told not to drop any weight. I am still trying to ensure I am making right decision. My questions are below: 1. Many people in my life, especially my own family, would think of it as a failure to resort to such measures. I am not telling anyone I am having WLS except my husband. Is it possible to keep it from my family, co-workers, & friends long-term? 2. Hard to find published research with longtern results because it is still relatively new and often patients eventually stop following up with center/surgeon. What is it like for those who are 5-10 years out? 3. I plan to only take a week to recover. Surgery on Wed and back to work week later on following Thursday and Friday. I am a College Professor & Nurse Practitioner. How is the fatigue? manageable? I have had Laparoscopic surgery so I know what that feels like. 4. How easy is it to gain weight after sleeve? Does it seem to come on faster for any reason? 5. I know there is the window of 12-18 months to make use of tool. 3 or more years out you will be able to consume more food than 1/4-1/2 cup. Lets say 1 cup. Could you at this point eat normal but watching your calories and carbs? For example, eat healthy meal and have a small piece of dessert on occasions within that 1 cup? Thanks