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If any of you saw the movie 'Pitch Perfect' you will recall Amy introducing herself as "fatAmy" and she said she called it out first so others could not make such a reference about her first. Well. That is kind of what I do. I always make jokes and comments about how I am short and fat and my hubby is tall and skinny, or other such references. I hate that I feel that way about myself. I graduated from college with the standing of 'highest ranking senior" having all straight A's and I passed he CPA exam in one sitting which is something rarely done. I did this having only a GED and no high school diploma! So why do I not introduce myself as 'smartJackie' instead of 'fatJackie'. !!!! My weight always makes me feel inferior. I need to work on that big time!

I am hopeful my marriage will sustain this change in my life. I have been married 40 years. I was not overweight when we got married (115 lbs). In fact, I wore the little miini skirt, gogo boots, etc of that era. I had long blonde hair and big tatas. Ha. Anyway, 40 years later, my hair is short and grey, I had breast reduction surgery 15 years ago, and I wear pants with elastic waist bands. Not a day goes by that he does not say that he loves me. He is tall and slim and very active, so his wish is for me to get healthy again so we can get back to activities that we once enjoyed together. I have strong hopes that we will enjoy the new me and our marriage will become even stronger.... And a whole lot more fun! He is getting the bikes ready as we speak. Only time can tell how this will go.

Good for you to see the positive in that situation. As for me, I think he still should be swimming with the fishes... That comment was rude. I am always amazed at how easy it is to call someone fat. I wonder how he would have felt if you responded as to how small his hands were.... Maybe other things are small too! And I am not referring to just his brain.

You are close but I am even more boring then that. I am a CPA and even worse, I am an internal auditor for a manufacturing company. I don't actually count beans all day, instead I count pennies and yes, widgets too! My family insists that CPA really stands for certified pain in the a.. Might be true!

June 17th.... Will that day ever come! I am so nervous and so excited. I know we all feel that way. Glad to know I am normal!

Some people say I count beans......

Very good idea. I will take up that suggestion. I will keep that outfit handy when I get to feeling down on myself. I will wear it and visually see how much improvement I have made for myself.

This thread is fun. I want to play. Try and guess me. The pic here is not even close. I am in a field that has many more men then women. Funny, when I am in a conference room full of my coworkers all I see is bald heads in front of me. My job is very tedious and boring.

I know this is corny, but your comment made me cry. How sweet he was to carry you and how wonderful that he could!!! You hD to feel like a princess!

You asked what us pre-op participants are hoping for once we move over to the "other" side. My hope and dream is very simple. I want to be able to be able to enjoy a conversation with old friends and new people and NEVER once wonder if they are thinking to themselves....OMG she is fat! Or worse yet saying it out loud to others when I walk away. I desperately hope I come to believe they will judge me for my good humor, intelligence, etc. etc. I ALWAYS see myself as the fat girl in a crowd of people. I dream of the day that feeling will go away.

I have had several surgeries affecting my stomach muscles...... I found the only way to sleep was in a recliner. If you don't have one, consider renting one or borrowing one from a friend or family member. You likely will be very glad you did. And yes, I am a stomach sleeper also.

My concern with doing surgery in Mexico started with a comment from my facilitator in the states. I was approved for surgery by my ins company, but my daughter is still in limbo waiting for her approval letter. I told the facilitator that if she was denied we would consider surgeons in Mexico. She quickly responded that we should be very careful before making that decision because it is very hard to get surgeons in the US to deal with any complications from the WLS surgery performed in Mexico. I was shocked by her response. I have since read all the posts from my fellow WLS participants here on this site and believe I have received enough information, support, and encouragement, along with research on several doctors in Mexico, to enable both my daughter and I to be comfortable with our decision to go with surgery in this country should this be the only financial option we have.

So I had determined that I am not saying anything about my surgery to anyone for fear of negative feedback. But maybe I will change my mind based on this thread. Guess I just as well know who my real friends are up front! Get it over with! And let the cream rise to the top. Those will be the friends I want to ultimately share this with. The rest of the naysayers can be avoided.

I couldn't stand the wait... Surgery is June 17th. Booked a trip to London to get through the last few days. Walking and sight seeing has helped me keep my mind busy and away from surgery thoughts. I will be back in the states on Sunday eve. Surgery is Tues. so not much time for nerves when I return! I want to move over to Post op side of this journey! :-)

I hope I eventually get to a pair of jeans that small and have this problem. Right now I have jeans so tight I struggle keeping them up. And they are 16Ws! So anything with a single digit in the size will make me very happy for sure! I will be happy to carry a purse and adapt to the small pockets, thank you very much. :-)

I love that attitude. Made me smile. :-). I head in for surgery on the 17th of this month. Hope I come out the other end of my journey as happy as you are.

I have a very personal goal.... One I have wanted to reach for years. I have a gorgeous wedding ring that my hubby had designed and bought for me on our 19th wedding anniversary. A 3 carat princess cut diamond. I have not worn this ring for 2 years, since I gained too much weight. I know I could have made the ring bigger, but I could just not make myself to that. I kept saying I would lose enough weight soon and I would be able to wear it again. I know the day I am able to wear that ring I will be able to tell myself I am well on my way to a new me. I will happily make that ring smaller when I reach my goal weight. :-)

This is an important bit of advice I had not thought of.... Taking the video with you when you return home.

I start my preop diet next week, one week from my surgery date. My dr is in WA state. The diet is just as described here.

Thanks for the info. I will check out this site. We are waiting for my daughter's approval letter from her ins. If it is denied, we will go the route of self pay. Obviously US is out, as all are way to expensive, but your estimate from this dr is withi. The range she can afford. We should know in 2 weeks.

Thanks. Mexico may be the only option for my daughter. I will add that name to the list of potential drs.

What city is dr Pompa in, in Mexico?

I booked a trip to London for my summer vacation. I leave this coming Monday and return the following Sunday (june15). My surgery is June 17 so my wait after I return will be minimal. I am hoping my visit with the Queen will keep my mind of the surgery. Ha! Maybe I'll run into Kate and Will and baby George and I can have a cup of tea with them. That would be good as long as it is decaf... Part of my time in England I will be on my Pre-op diet. Oh dear!

I have the fit scale that goes with my fitbit and corresponding software It tracks my BMI and also my weight loss progress. Up until now, it has been a dismal graph on my computer. But I expect to see it looking much better after my surgery!

Yes, she my NUT explained to me that chewable even in first week was ok. She said doc would require vitamins just as you mentioned here. Thanks! It is helpful to know I am on the right track and will be ready to go when my day comes!