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I visited her in the hospital both Tuesday and yesterday. She was pretty out of it and dozed off quite a lot, but as I said her husband is my friend too so I hope it helped that I gave him some company too. It can't be easy to have your spouse in the hospital. He had to go to a class so I stayed with her as long as I could after he left. I knew she was sore, but I wanted to see how she was doing emotionally. She said she couldn't remember why she put herself through this. I hope I did a good job offering encouraging words. We both watch biggest loser so I reminded her how the 'before' contestants record a video for their future selves, and how the 'after's always respond so emotionally. Also I reminded her that she's really doing this for her future kids. Her doctor said at her current weight (somewhere in the vicinity of 280-300 lbs) that it could be dangerous to get pregnant, and she really wants kids. I think her looking at it in that light helped. Captain America 2 comes out tomorrow, so offered to stay at her house with her while our husbands go see it. Her husband was very grateful, and I know mine wouldn't mind seeing it a second time with me. By the way, good luck to all of you on your journeys! It's a very brave thing you're doing.

Thanks for the replies! I actually have a spare key to her house for emergencies and I asked her husband (who is also one of my and my hubby's best friends) if I could sneak in and leave some flowers on the day she comes home... Thursday I think. Plus we'll be over to the hospital after work this evening. Our version of 'go and party' is to sit around each others' houses and watch movies, so she won't feel like she's missing out, I hope. Glad to know I'm on the right track! Any idea how long before she can take long walks? (eg. around the mall for an hour?) Hitting the mall isn't something we do too often, but I thought it would be a good way to socialize and get some movement in at the same time.

Hi all, my best friend just had gastric sleeve surgery today. She's 29 and struggled her entire life with obesity and is finally doing something about it. I was wondering if you had any advice for being a good supportive friend? Her house is right across the street from my work so I'm planning to see her during my lunch breaks while she's home recovering. Her husband works 2 jobs and her parents live down the street (though they are aging and have some health problems of my own) so she has a good support network but I still worry about how hard a road this will be for her. Thanks in advance for any advice! (I posted this in the new Friends and Family forum but it didn't look like there was much activity there.)

Hi all, my best friend just had gastric sleeve surgery today. She's 29 and struggled her entire life with obesity and is finally doing something about it. I was wondering if you had any advice for being a good supportive friend? Her house is right across the street from my work so I'm planning to see her during my lunch break while she's home recovering. Her husband works 2 jobs and her parents live down the street (though they are aging and have some health problems of their own) so she has a good support network but I still worry about how hard a road this will be for her. Thanks in advance for any advice!