Why worry about telling your new love interest that you are banded?
I can't be the only one who realizes that when we go on that first date to a restaurant and I order a cracker (after he orders a side of beef), that my new flame just might notice there is something up?
As for your mindset: I wonder, do you want a fattie to love? Did you even love the fattie you? I Don't want a fattie! I'm looking good and I expect my man to look good too!