crmills74

Since my hubby is deployed and won't be back until 4 months after my surgery, my mom will be my support person after the surgery. She is so scared that her anxiety is driving me up the wall. She told several ppl and they keep sending me emails with links to ppl that have have major complications or even died from surgery! I am very aware of the risks and I know that my compliance has a lot to do with many of the complications. However, I am almost to the point of telling my mom that I cancelled the surgery and have someone else come and help me out. I have so much to do already to prepare ( arrangements for transpo for kids activities, cleaning, organizing quick meals, etc) that this is becoming too much. How do you deal with loved ones that try to scare you into not having the surgery? I've tried giving them up to date literature and my mom was there at the pre op with my surgeon but she just refused to really listen. They are very opinionated and won't listen to reason. Their justification is that since I gained 100 lbs with both pregnancies and lost it within 8 months, I can lose this weight. But that was before my injuries and I ran close to 40-45 miles a week and did some real drastic things that were pretty dangerous. Also, I was in the Army and if you were overweight it was equal to being dirtbag and I was called a fat ass pig everyday until I lost the weight. They are so used to me losing weight quickly in the past that they think I'm being lazy and looking for an easy way out. Anyway, I expect ppl who don't know me to have opinions but I expect more from loved ones who have watched me struggle.

My surgery has been moved to May 13th from May 6th. Even though I am excited about getting the surgery, I'm kinda glad for the extra prep time. I had my pre-op with the surgeon on Friday and I will meet with the anesthesiologist early next week. The surgeon spent about an hour with me and my support person who was very impressed. Just about all of my friends and family are against me getting the surgery because they don't think I need it and want me to do Weight Watchers because Jennifer Hudson lost a lot with them. (I call BS on that but I digress). Anyway, good luck to all.

Yes, that's the same day I start mine as well! Unfortunately, I had to have my last meal on Monday since we are required to do a 2 week Atkins type diet. Then 2 days prior to surgery is when we do the clear liquid diet. What do you think you'll have?

I'm scheduled for surgery on 6 May 2013. My husband is deployed to Afghanistan until October. He knows I was in process to get surgery but I haven't told him I have a date because I want it to be a surprise. Any Military wives out there having surgery while hubby is deployed?

Wow, you look great, but you were also very pretty in the pumpkin patch pic. Congratulations on your success. My surgery is scheduled for 6 May 2013.

Congratulations!

Yes. My surgery is scheduled for 6 May 2013. It's been a long process. I've been in the program for almost a year. Before going to the orientation, I was on Opti-Fast and taking Phentermine. Shortly after, I began the plan given by the program and stopped taking the appetite suppressants. I gained 20 lbs and was required to lose the weight before getting scheduled for surgery. We had to sign a statement saying that we could not gain any weight. This was because previous participants just went on an eating frenzy after they got into the program thinking that since they were getting the surgery, they could just gorge until the date. Anyway, I'm happy to have found this forum and wish you and everyone good luck.