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I’m channeling my inner Elle Woods today ?

Hello
I have been confirmed for 4th January and I am also nervous. I met a lady last night at my husbands work party and she had it done in May this year. I am feeling so much better about it all now!
I've just joined up to this group to look at questions and answers online. :-)

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I am 11 days post-op and I had my follow up today. I thought I was doing fine, mentally, but this afternoon I am feeling very down and I don’t know why. I could cry at any moment. Anyone else have this problem post-op?

As long as you are following the program and losing consistently, there is no such thing as too slow. A group of us who all had surgery in the same month lost weight at different rates, but we all ended up in the same place at the end, some sooner than others. You will be fine!

I am 5 weeks post op and have lost 15 lbs. Is this on the lower end of losing? I don’t get much exercise in and am trying to work on that, but I feel a bit like I’m failing myself. Input is appreciated!

You are on pace for 156 lbs in a year. 52 weeks at 3 lbs a week.

When they cancelled my surgery (it was scheduled for July) I called and asked if there were any other options, which is how I ended up "out patient" at the Hampton Inn! (I had surgery in a surgery center, they just couldn't do it in the hospital). I was one week into my liquid diet and at first I was devastated, but then I got determined and called and spoke with the office staff and said I was willing to do it wherever he was going to be performing surgery, if he was. I also wanted to make sure that I would be scheduled immediately if anything became available. And I ate pasta and mexican food over the weekend and on Monday , they called and said they could get me in on Thursday! A day earlier than my original surgery date. I confessed about eating and they said "Just be good until Thursday, and I was and I got it done. Good luck...2020 is a crazy year. I hope you get a surgery date soon!

What’s meant for you won’t escape you. I promise you that! Take your time with you’re disappointment but don’t allow what you can’t control to eat at you or change your focus. I was due to get mine when everything was shut down earlier this year. I didn’t end up getting my surgery until Nov 16th. You’re surgery was so close you should be one of the first to get rescheduled when they reopen elective surgeries.

Good Luck & Happy Surgery Day ♥️

Hi!
I really appreciate what you shared as I'm heading into Gastric Bypass surgery on 12/8/2020.
I particularly identified with staying with a spouse because I was overweight and felt that no one would want me. I had actually had this surgery scheduled for Feb. 2019, but my husband refused to acknowledge that he had diabetes and developed double vision, so I had to cancel because we felt we could not have both parents incapacitated. There were also issues of mild physical abuse (hitting, pushing), as well as verbal, emotional, and financial abuse. Turns out that I needed to lose his 330 lbs. prior to getting my surgery done and ended a 25 year marriage. Life is so much better!
I wish you the same feelings of relief, freedom, and confidence. You can do this.

Not as far out as some of you but yes there are issues - For me
1. Definably Drink more now -
2. Very Thin and bump stuff and it dang hurts
3. Became more isolated since happy hour and food bashes are a thing of the past
But I agree love the new me for sure! Would do it again

I am now 2+ years out from surgery and still maintaining my goal weight. VSG has changed my life in so many ways. But there are negative things or challenges I rarely see people talking about. I'm listing mine in hopes others won't feel alone, please add yours if you'd like. I'm thinking this might be a bit therapeutic as I don't talk about this in real life as no one really understands unless you've been through it.
Things that have become very real for me:
*Body Dysmorphia is real. I currently wear a dress/jean size 6 and tops in XS/S. I know those sizes are amazing and I never would have imagined that's where I would end up. BUT...when I look in the mirror I don't see that size. I still see my butt as huge, My sagging stomach doesn't help but I just can't shake the "fat" thoughts when I see myself.
I recently read that part of this is due to the fact that we tend to over exaggerated what we looked like when we were overweight, so losing that weight still doesn't give us an accurate depiction of who we really are. I try and keep this in mind but I don't know if this will ever go away.
*Addiction Transfer. It took me awhile to realize this but I most definitely transferred my addictive eating to compulsive shopping. I've spent way too much money since going through this process. It's a constant struggle.
*Confidence and Self Worth. This is a good thing for sure. But, I have been struggling in my marriage for a long time. And for years I felt trapped because of my fear for being alone forever - which was driven by the fact that I was overweight and told myself no one else would ever want me. I have a different view now. I've changed physically and emotionally. My spouse has always had different philosophies on life than I have. He has never eaten well, never exercised, and has never wanted to become healthier. I had hoped my success would give him some motivation to do better but it hasn't. That combined with other major issues we have had led to my decision to end my marriage. It's ultimately a positive thing for me as I'm in a toxic relationship but finally have the emotional strength and confidence to do this. It's sad, but it's reality.

I am almost 3 years out. I am feeling the best I have felt in many years. My only problem in life is my dear hubby of 49 years passed a year ago. My doc said to be careful, after a loss people tend to stress eat. Not me.
Hang in there , life is what you make it.
I will admit to buying cute clothes , I justify it with he would have wanted me to look nice. His motto was if you look good, you feel good! So true!