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Thank you to everyone. Whith your help I have decided to keep my date. I have just told my family that I was thinking of postponing it because of the issues with them and I actually let them see the responses to my post. They all felt pretty bad and did admit to being scared. My husband not so much but I know he is afraid of me changing. He has told my sister in-law that he is nervous I'm not sure if the afraid of the surgery or the change. Well, I decided that's it and I asked for everyone not to speak about it again. Let's see how this works out. Thank you all again. The online community will be were I go for support. Lori

Thank you to all. I've really gotten a lot from the web site and thought I would through this out there since it's been tough at home. I wish I never told anyone I was getting it done. I don't want anyone to get the wrong idea. My kids are really great in everyother way. They are great in school and respectful. I just messed up with housework and cooking. I was very surprised at their reaction. I did have a feeling it was fear driven. The problem is it can be hurtful when you give so much to and get this in return. I know I read that you weed out the people that do not support you but I can't really do that with my kids. I'm still on for 9/5 I haven't cancelled yet. Thank you all again and I enjoy all of your comments and replies to all the questions on the forums.

I am scheduled for Sept. 5th and honestly I'm not afraid at all. I think this is the first time in my life I am not afraid of something. I've been thinking about the surgery for 2 years and when BCBS approved the sleeve I decided this was the time. I've been going through the process since January and have my date I am ready mentally but the problem is my family. Nobody wants me to have it. I have 3 girls 19, 16, and 13 plus my husband (who hasn't been such a great one for 20 years). They all say I am being selfish. I am afraid I will not have the support I need once I have the surgery. I have given my life for my family and whenever I need to do something for myself I put it off. I thought they would be happy for me. All of the support meeting and things I've had to go through to get approved constantly said you need a good support system. I work full time and take care of all the housework. I have started to make everyone accountable for chores for the past couple of months but it's been a battle. I think I started to late and I should wait until they can handle this. I keep getting constant remarks that I'm taking the easy way out. I know this is not easy believe me. I have battled with my weight my whole life and have lost and gained enough weight, I want it to stop. Please I know I have done the damage of not making them more responsable and I realize that now. Like I said It's been a tough 20 years and I thought if I just did it all they wouldn't notice the bad things. If any other Mothers have had this problem I would like a little help. Thank you,

To sleevers answering her post. Does this go away with time? I'm pre surgery and I hope this will pass in time.

Got my date. Dr. Hess Boston Medical. I haven't felt that nervouse until they called with my date. I had some jitters before now I'm stressing but still excited. Can't wait to see the new me. I'm going to set a 6 month goal of not caring how much I loose and TRYING not to compare my weight loss to others. Let's see how that goes. Looser's bench coming soon.

That was so amazing. I'm pre op got approved by Insurance and just waiting for my date. I loved everything laugh and could imagine everything step by step. Thank you for the post. I can't wait until I'm on the other side of this. I can only hope I'll be as descriptive...

Glad to see your on the other side and feeling better. I can't wait to be there. SOON

Hello everyone I'm not that new I've been watching and reading for a while. This is such great information I love it. I am having my sleeve done at Boston Medical by Dr. Hess. I reached the weight they asked and all the groups and appointments. Now they have submitted my paperwork to the insurance company (BCBS). Just waiting for my date now. I'm excited but scared I've been overweight my whole life and am done having children (3 girls) so I thought now was a good time to do this especially since BCBS now pays for the sleeve. I am having a little bit of a hard time with my 12 year old (the baby) she doesn't understand why I need the surgery and thinks I'm taking the easy way out. I know she is just scared, any suggestions? I have already showed her Youtube videos of peoples success and waking up from surgery and how smooth it went. If any moms or dads are out there and gone through this please help. She is actually making me second guess myself. Lori

Hello Sleeve-A-Licious I'm in the boston area as well. I am having my sleeve done at Boston Medical with Dr. Hess. I don't have a date yet I have my last appt. with the nutritionist on 5/15 so as long as I loose the 10 pounds soon I will get my date. Nice to see someone from the boston area.