BZButterfly79

I would love to have everyone share their top ten reasons why they want the surgery or the top ten thing they love about having the surgery(for the ones already there). I think this would be fun, we all have our motivations. My To Ten Reasons for Having Surgery: 1)So I can control my PCOS 2)Not feel like an elephant on a treadmill 3)Not feel like an elephant on a broomstick when on a bike(It's true I refuse!!) 4)Be able to try sex positions I haven't in years! 5)Walk into Forever 21 with a hand full of bags and a new attitude!! 6)Be able to wear my wedding ring(instead of the fake one I had to buy because I gained weight!) 7)Keep up with my three boys and run around like a light feather playing soccer with them. 8)Visit my family in South america whom I keep telling that I don't have money to buy tickets and posting head shots online so they don't realize how fat I got!! 9)I have to be honest...I want to walk down the mall(purposely) and see how many people agree that I got it goin' on!! 10)The Husband...I want to see which way the cookie is going to crumble but I must admit I love him, I miss those times he used to want me anywhere those were fun hopefully he can have fun with the new me too.

I would like to ask any of you willing to be honest with me if like me you envision the moment. What moment? The moment when the anesthesia begins to kick in and there is no turning back, you are not afraid of the surgery anymore you are now fully aware that the person you used to be for the most part will never be again. How do you feel about that, is that or was that a sad moment for you? When you woke up post op did you see the world differently and did your loved ones treat you differently? I think for me there will be a sadness because I have hidden so many emotions under these layers, so many wishes unfulfilled, and I think you grow accustomed to that self in a strange way. Share your thoughts it's nice for me to get out of my bubble and hear how others think. I am on my way to surgery hopefully not too long from now.

I have been researching and trying to find inspiration, this guy has been very important in that he has had an amazing journey. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did, he is now doing everything....that life has to offer.

DJackson you made me smile, there is no reason now!! LOL He is a great guy I am telling you my perception this morning he might tell you he is worried, who knows I remind him all the time he is not Tom Cruise and he needs to settle down. I remember before I gained all the weight he had other issues, jealousy. I miss those days

Thank you thickinphilly, I browsed this site for months until I got the courage to register and I look forward to growing as a person from the experiences I learn about here, we are all so different and yet so much alike. I appreciate your input.

a. walker thank you for your reply, my husband is Brazilian, in Brazil fat people are invisible well mostly because they don't exist, I have not visited my family in 10 years because I am ashamed of what I have become, people there have these weight loss surgeries when they are 50lbs overweight and sometimes less, lots and lots of pressure. My husband told me that if weight was all he cared about he would not have been with me all these years and three kids later but how I feel is most important as you mentioned. I don't feel good I don't feel alive and I miss that and I am tired of the Atkins diet and phentermine and not wanting to look in the mirror. Someone said to me: "would you rather have your husband tell you he is crazy about your body and be screwing every other girl out there or tell you how he really feels" well I don't like either option but there are some woman like yourself who have a hubby who says hey you can look like blue man and I will still want you and to that have a toast it is hard to find not impossible but hard. God Bless

I am new here, as of 15 minutes ago. I went to my primary who informed me that due to my PCOS and my BMI of 42% he wouldn't mind sending me to the Bariatric specialist. So yesterday I went to my first appointment, I believe there will be Nutrition, Psych, and then the Doc sees me. During the class I was like: "OMG I can't believe I got here!" meaning...to this point! But I felt like it was the right step I NEED help, I have been living miserably for the last 10 years because of this weight. Now on to the situation: My husband of 13 years who married me when I was not fat and who has been bitching about my weight for all these years and truthfully terrorizing me about it because he is so "fit" tells me yesterday when I got home to talk to him about the surgery that the surgery is a cop-out and that if I cannot control what goes in my mouth now why would I control it after surgery. Then I asked hi if he was not supportive he said: "That's not what I am saying, what I am saying is that you have a weakness and you will go back to the same weight if you don't address that." Okay...I see he does have a point but otherwise he is being a jerk. I also showed him the 10% divorce rate post-surgery and that he would need to be supportive and he stated: "I don't see why people divorce because they got skinny-don't put the carriage in front of the horse." So I showed him a video on Youtube of a beautiful obese woman before surgery and then once she was at her goal, he mentioned she had flabby arms!!! OMG this is driving me nuts, I want to do this for me and he has assured me that the weight is the only problem in our marriage so I am thinking that will be solved but I definitely don't want someone reminding me of flabby this and that after surgery. Have any of you experienced this situation or care to type a few lines to encourage me or discourage me(at this point anything is appreciated). One thing I know for sure, if I continue to be this weight and unhappy due to it, my marriage will end. What I don't know is if it will get better or if it will get worse once I have the surgery. If there a possibility that the surgery will cause jealousy and insecurity on his part? What have you experienced? Thank you for reading.