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I am Dec.6th but my doctor just left a message he needs to reschedule. I'm sure it will still be in December. I think they didn't realize I was an overnighter and spaces us out. And I'm getting plication with my lap band. I liked Dec. 6 date. Early in the month, time to adjust and be on a new eating phase for holidays. I want to get a cheeseburger and a beer for the last time. I am also alternating between starting good habits and saying good bye to carbonated drinks and things that will pretty much be off limits. I'm more nervous as December gets closer and more excited both at the same time.

Hi...thank you all for the good advice, kind words and support. That's what I need since right now I am basically putting it all on one person. (Plus the team at the surgery center to answer all my questions). I unchecked everything in the settings so I think that will keep emails out of my inbox. My inbox even shows up my phone with subject and from, (I like that setting so I don't want to turn it off), but there are times when if I'm walking away to get something that the person closest to phone will say oh you have a message from so and so. A bit rude but it doesn't bother me becuase I have no emails to hide. Until now. It seems hard to set up another email address and keep track of it, but I like that idea and I'm sure it's not hard. lol I'm good at the computer and can handle harder stuff. Plus setting up another email address for websites I don't know if I trust as far as sharing my email with unwanted web sites, I always say I really should have another email address. I' going to get on that. Then figure iut how to switch this account over to that, or will I have to start a new account? Hmm I'll figure that out. I'll wait to see if I get lapbandtalk.com emails yet. So far according to my settings I should be good. I am not against telling people in the future if I feel like it. But besides being private, I hear these bad stories about people saying hurtful things and until I am further along on my journey I don't want to deal with that. Unfortunately, even my closest friends would tell their husband, one other friend etc. So I'll hold off. I have good friends that maybe I will tell because if they tell anyone it won't really get back to anyone. Ex- college friends that live states away. This one experience is always in the back of my head: On facebook a current neighborhood ( not where I grew uo where I live now about 30 mins away) friend of mine and and my high school friend came up as common friends. I hadn't talked to my high school friend in 10 years but it was fun reconnecting through facebook and catching up. When my neighborhood friend saw I knew her she asked how and I said oh she's a really good person we had so much fun together in highschool. My neighborhood friend proceeded to tell me how she had WLS 5 years ago. I was thinking, hmm why is she telling me this. As if it defined her. She didn't even know from my high school friend herself. Her mom told her mom and here I was finding out. I didn't think it was appropriate. My h.s. friend never mentioned it to me when I said wow your kids are adorable and you look beautiful. And I don't feel she had to. I just feel like you never know who is going to tell who and I am not comfortable with that. My own kids are young. I'm not telling them now. I'll know when the day is right I will tell them. It feels good to find some people who did not tell many people. It is hard to find. I know support is a huge part of this, so I hope it works out for me this way.

I am a private person and am only telling my husband about my surgery. I'm not the type to generally talk about any procedures I'm having done, even, common ones so this is not out of the ordinary for me. There are some people I trust would be supportive but they would tell one or two close other people and I don't want that. I also don't want negative comments or judgements or to have to explain my decision to anyone at this point. I feel it's best for me personally not to tell anyone that IKIRL. That's why I need this support page so badly. Has anyone done this? Do you feel guilty about white lies? For example, for all the pre op visits I needed grandparents to help watch the kids. When they would ask where I was going, I would say something similar like an appointment. What kind? the dentist. I felt bad for that. Will the words LAPBANDTALK come up on my emails? Not that others read my emails but if I have my account open at work and someone walks over to chat, I don't want to have to minimize the screen. Thanks for your help.