Tisa

Well my mother was also emotionally abusive to me she had all kinds of anxiety problems, bi polar disorder on top of it, and refused to take her meds so living with her was pure hell for most of my life. I kind of learned to deal with it like, tip toeing around her that kind of thing.She also did that thing where shed talk about how horrible i was to my aunts/uncles on the phone really loud so I could hear. I think the most important thing I learned is to put my feeling before hers. If you feel shes abusive, and you've talked to her, and she still won't change her ways you need to do whats right for you and your life. Don't worry about your dad he'll get over it, your mom may realize having you in her life is a privilege not a right and change her ways, but if not oh well. Don't worry about her, when the time comes you can forgive her but for now i'd work o getting out of that house asap like get a job and start saving up, or really anything.Being in that environment isn't healthy because after a while you may stat to believe the things your mother says

Am I the only one who thinks us larger girls have a harder time that skinny girls shaving. I mean we have more leg so we have more hair on that more leg It's just annoying. I hate having to shave my legs every 4 days in the summer .Do you ladies choose other options like waxing, weird cream stuff ect?Or do you just go au natural?

Thats nice that you told her, I think you need the support of at least one person who's really close to you. Even if she doesn't want you to have it she'll prolly visit you and be there for you

I knew you'd say that!Yeah I am going to tell him before I have the surgery, and I think we have a pretty decent relationship, it's just the culture my dad comes from is very conservative, thats where we always have our disagreements lol. I think its because we're both aries so we clash alot. My mom is the complete opposite of him shes really new aged. I started considering it, and told her how important it was to me to be healthy and she decided to support me on it.I'm not sure he'll say no, but there's a good chance, and i don't want to deal with that before i even have my surgery date.

it is inspiring to hear your story so thank you for sharing, i'm also 16 and just taking the first steps to get surgery.at the same its a little hard to hear they shot you down because you were 17 but in the end it worked out so that's really great wishing you luck!

hey congratz thats great I wish you smooth sailing from here on

thanks for all your opinions you guys, i think i finally made my decision, I'll tell my two best friends, and if someone who i really trust asks me ill also tell them. Other people ill just say i went on a medically induced diet which is not a lie. I know I have to tell me father because I am under 18 (im 16) but i'll only tell him when i get my surgery date, even if he doesn't agree with me, he can't stop me, my parents are divorced and my moms the one who has insurance for me. I won't tell him what hospital its at or w/e deets because even though I respect my parents, at the end of the day its still my body and i have to make the choices that will affect me for the rest of my life. At least I think so

ooo that sounds like a great idea, im defiantly buying a juicer post op!

Hey there, well i'm getting all my pre op stuff out of the way for surgery, and i haven't told my dad or sister, just my mom and one of my friends. I don't really want to tell anyone, not because i'm ashamed just because i don't want to be the poster child for wls. i feel like my sis and dad are very judgemental but people are eventually going to notice me not eating that much sooner or later. What do you guys think i should do? I was thinking about telling people im getting back surgery because technically this is for my back pain mostly but then again maybe i just shouldnt say anything at all? I feel like most people have the wrong idea about wls and are too quick to judge. Were you guys open or secretive about your surgery

hey, i'm 16 and on the path too, i haven't spoken to a surgeon yet but it would be great if you guys could tell me how it went with the insurance/surgery process as a teen