dalia93

My sister asked why did I always date " thus certain type" of guy.I was very offended.I said so you think I have a list and weed out all the most handsome, fit, guys.??!? I go out with the person that asks . I think our preference will change a bit as we slim down .But the promise I made to myself is Never date some one who knew me as plus size and wouldn't look twice but then after weightloss they are all in my face. ..oh no buddy remember I'm the "friend" the "play sister" the " honegirl" I have a long way to go but o am already getting ready for cuz I know it's coming :-/

Just got banded 4 hours ago, I was SO nervous but it wasnt as bad as I expected woke up with pain but they gave me pain relief and now I'm fine, just drugged up so sorry if I spell things wrong lol the funny thing is that I don't feel like there's a band inside me :/ lol it's strange.

I can't wait to take pics of my clothes and sees the difference! This is inspirational to everyone here! U look great! Congrats

So I am 2 years banded and 1 year post TT.
In that time I have lost 100+ pounds (idk how many inches). Gone from a 22w to an 8/10. And yet I still struggle with my body image
I just don't see what others see or what the clothing size difference says.
Eureka!! Today a huge lightbulb (100 watt) when on above my head. My problem is the number on the scale (isn't that what brought most of us to banding). Seriously though I mean I am relating how I think I look to that number that glows at me when I step on that scale.
Has it changed - hell yes it has. 262/3 pre banding to 159 this morning. Somewhere in my brain that number tells me I am still fat! If Jennifer Anniston and Angelina Jolie are like 120 or less than I MUST still be fat. And forget when I watched Kirstie Alley on DWTS. I felt like a beast.
I never wanted to be a size 2 and I still don't want that. I would look awkward especially since I am a 36dd.
I know now I need to separate what I see from what Hollywood tells me. Heck Marilyn Monroe was a 12 and she was perfect!!
Am I a success. Yes I am and if u are trying your best and u like u than u are too

Two months soon to come. This was at 25 down.

I've noticed a pattern in my thinking over the past few months...that my "head", and my perceptions of self have not kept pace with the reality of my weight loss. Though this is common treatment issue in dealing with individuals with eating disorders (i.e. anorexia nervosa, who believe that they are physically much larger in size than they really are), I never thought it would also be an issue with people in the process of going through significant weight loss.
I've had some difficulties with my thoughts regarding my weight; my automatic thoughts have not always been up to date with the actual number...I've become aware of myself thinking about my weight, and reverting back to the pre op weight I was at. Instead of a "onederland" number, I catch myself thinking of a number which begins with a "2".
I've had an extremely difficult time with purchasing clothing in smaller sizes...recently I needed to go shopping for some capri pants which were the correct size to fit me well, and I had shrunk out of everything which I owned. I was shopping with my sister...who encouraged me to look at misses sizes, and she humored me with allowing me to take in the identical capri's but in a plus size. The misses size was obviously a better fit and my correct size, and so that's the size I ended up purchasing...but it took every ounce of willpower for me to not also purchase the plus size.
The same debate with myself is ongoing as I shrink into a smaller sizes...as I automatically look for a larger size, and if I don't find it I resist choosing to try on a size smaller just to see if it will fit. I've been pleasantly surprised several times when the smaller size was actually the one to fit.
I can "see" the evidence that physically I am smaller; I no longer have to adjust the seat in my car to get in, I fit comfortably into restaurant booths, my mobility has increased, and the size on the clothing tag is a smaller number. But I continue to be challenged with the automatic thinking which places me back at the beginning of my weight loss journey. Eventually I know my "head" will catch up with the rest of me...just another part of my journey.

Went yesterday for my 2nd weigh in and in just about 7 weeks I've lost 17 more pounds. I now have lost 35 lbs total since May 10th. I also got my second fill. Yay!!! Hoping for another 17 before next weigh in!

When i got banded last December, one of my hopeful goals was to lose 50 lbs by my July 27th birthday. Well, im a little late , but all i can say is HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME !!!! 175.7 this A.M. !!!!!! I dont care about the birthday , but i do care about giving myself a gift of being healthier and happier . Only 35 more lbs to go ! THANK YOU TO EVERYBODY who's on this forum, you have no idea how much info and advice ive gotten from all of you ! All i can say is Thanks !!! Have a good day !!

So...if a Christian Terrorist did something horrific in the US that killed a lot of people would it be upsetting if there was a christian church close by? I have no problem with it. It's not ON the site it's NEAR it. My husband was a 50 cal gunner and to be excited by what it does to someone is disgusting. When we act like this it makes us no better than those we hate. You can't attack a whole religion because of the acts of some terrorists that happen to follow that religion. Not all of them are nut jobs. Have an open mind.

My father is Egyptian and my mother is Iranian. I have been all around the world sir, maybe you should try it sometime? Christians have killed more people in the name of Jesus than any other sect in the world, read a book.

Had my surgery 1 week and a day ago ... Been on a liquid diet since and I lost 2 kilos at the start but weighed myself today and gained it all back. I am craving food but fighting it all! Am soo depressed! Why am I gaining weight? What shall I do? Has this happened to anyone else?

Good luck for tomorrow and let me know how you are doing! Same :'( soo worried about that but I hope we will be fine! I knoww!! I was going to cheat twice but didnt thank god lol
We can do it!
Good luck to All having surgery tomorrow !

I lost a 104 pounds in a year. I've always been a big exerciser. I just couldn't do the eating. It took me a year to really recover from the surgery and bike like i used to bike. This way of life is severely lacking in carbs and biking without carbs is difficult. After a year, I kind of just stopped losing weight. I had to have an unfill once because I was too tight. I knew it was too tight because I couldn't even drink water. I called my doc immediately. I probably do need to get a fill again but after being too tight, I think I might wait a little longer. October rolled around and then the holidays and winter!!!! OMG I gained back 20 pounds. Frustrating! There was also coming off my diuretic BP meds. Now that it's warmer and nicer outside, I'm back to biking and working out again with a higher intensity. Turns out my calories are too low for my workouts. As soon as I raised my calorie intake to fit the exercise and starting logging in my calories, I started losing again. But Howdybooth may be right, it might be time to get a fill. I can eat certain types of bread, thin crust and crusty types. I bet being tighter I wouldn't be able to eat any those. I don't want to go through this every winter! It takes work! Maintenance for me will probably be a long time of still logging calories!