It was the same for me. Actually it took 3 yrs just to do it. I also had to let him know I'm not asking for permission although that is harder to say only because he is paying for my loan. After the surgery he actually was very excited and noticed I had lost weight and he never had said any thing before. Now I've only lost 20 since the surgery (it's horrible) so now he doesn't I told you so about getting sick because I don't get sick at all or have many of the side effects witch i almost wish i had so he keeps telling me he wasted 5 grand on my stomach.. Of course that is almost worse than hearing I told you so. So, even hearing that don't worry he will eat those words when he see's you feeling good about yourself and you won't feel like that forever, it's not like you can never loosen the band. Secretly I think they are worried about the men who will really notice us now. Mine never says it but I can see it. You will be fine and you have suppport here.