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Thank you all so much for your advice it is very much appreciated. I'm very excited because I go for my consultation March 3rd!!! Once I talk to my mother I will let you all know how it went. Thanks again all of your words have inspired me even more to continue on my journey and have given me the courage to either keep my life changing choice to myself or tell only those that I want to. I am so excited I can't wait!

Hello everyone I am brand new to Lap Band Talk but have noticed that all of these forums are very helpfull. I have struggled with my weight since i can remember. I have decided to to the surgery and finally make a change for myself. The only dilemma I am having is trying to figure out how to tell my family and friends. I have told my fiance and he is very supportive but when I mentioned it before to my mother her reaction was not what I was hoping for. A friend of my mothers had the surgery done and apparently there were complications which left her very ill and bed ridden for life. I am trying to figure out how to go about telling her. I'm not asking for her approval but seeing as how her opinion meens a lot to me I would feel 100% better about it knowing that she's on board. I know a lot of people say do it for you don't do it for anyone else and trust me that is something that took me a long time to understand but I have finally for the first time in my life have decided to do something for me and not for anyone else. But I truly want her supprt any advice would be greatly appreciated. Also not sure how or if I should tell my friends I honestly have no idea how they would react. Thank you