spouse

Wow! Thanks so much for all your supportive comments and advice! I wasn't sure if I would be empathized with or shot, to be truthful. I so appreciate your "listening" and understanding. I will definitely raise this issue with the spouses of lapbanders who come to the Meet and Greet. Again, thanks all; it's a relief to know I'm not being unreasonable. Cheers, Everyone. As with my husband, I wish you all the best on your journey to new lives and that your spouses can handle (and applaud) the rapid changes in you.

I'm so glad the other side of lapband surgery support is being addressed! Since a month or more before my spouse was banded, I have accepted I can no longer bake for us or other people, no longer cook foods that might tempt him, done away with most of the normal dishes in favor of small ones, completely cleaned out all the canned goods and stuff in the freezer that might be tempting, stopped conversations during meals (as per the mindful eating class instruction), and the list goes on and on. So, I have no kitchen of my own, my husband now spends most of his waking hours communicating with other lapbanders around the world, and any time he and I now talk centers entirely on his stomach, his meals, how he felt today, how many grams of Proteins, carbs, etc, he's eaten, etc. I have been going through a lot of stress at work and in life with my family and our finances right now, but most attempts to discuss any of those things are relegated to the back burner in favor of more discussions centered on him and his gastric issues. I feel I have been very supportive by yielding the entire kitchen, changing my own eating habits, not talking during meals, going to the pool with him, complimenting him all the time on his weight loss and the smaller clothes he can wear now, and watching endles YouTube videos of him and some of his fellow lapbanders. We're even opening our home to lapbanders during this year's Meet and Greet. Is there any support out there for those of us who just want to talk about something other than food and the surgery, etc? Does any other family member of a lapband patient feel this way??? Help!